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in a quandry

pinkstarra
pinkstarra
I have been out of my emotional abusive relationship for just over a year, no contact since February and I started counselling last week. I have arranged to go to a music gig with friends in the new year, there will be about 10 of us and its ticket only. I noticed on the music gig event invitation on Facebook that my ex`s mum is going so I imagine my ex will be too. As soon as I saw that I didn't want to go anymore but a small part of me wants to go as I don't want to miss a night with friends. The tickets havnt been bought yet and I am in a quandary as to whether to go and risk seeing him or play it safe and not go.
This bunch of friends all now the situation and I have talked with them about what happened as a few of them had been in emotional abusive relationships in the past so are very understanding.
Any thoughts?
cant74deal
cant74deal
I can see it both ways. If it were me, the way my abuser is, I wouldn't go-it would not worth the harassment that would surely follow. I say, listen to your gut-try to figure out what your gut is telling you-what does your body do when you are relaxed and in a quiet place when you think about going? If you did see him, what is the worst thing that could happen, and what would you have to do to deal with it?
Tangelo
Tangelo
I can see it both ways too.

On one hand, your ex should not keep you from doing the things that you want to do, you have the freedom now to choose for yourself. Also if you have a good support system with you that might help. Your ex may not even be there.

On the other hand, I do now know the details of your abuse, so I don't know if its worth it.

I think if you went, make a plan for what to do if you see your ex, and tell your friends about it.
radrm
radrm
I think if your going with 10 friends you can be preoccupied with your friends and pretend he isn't there. Unless this puts you in danger then I would not go. Its better safe than sorry!