Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My ex and child's father came back into my life after three years of not talking. I was not having it at first but had a change of heart. Well he hasn't changed and is making my life a living hell. Now I feel like I am having a nervous break down. I am very depressed. He is so up and down with me and manipulative that it is messing with my head. Last week we rarely talked and he is basically homeless so he had to go stay with his other child's mother. Well I didn't know that and Saturday night I had moment of weakness and was calling him all day and text him and basically being ignored and this what he text me that night..............
"I just step outside to let you know that you are fucking up. I'm stating with one of my babe mom and I'm not going to show diss respect and get me kick out then I'm homeless. So why the fuck you bugging my phone keep going off and in pretending its just a friend. You going over board stop fucking texting and calling me daily, its hard to Miss you if you always hitting my phone. Further more you would won't me on phone with another girl if I'm living with you so show respect and cut that shit out. My last time telling you our I'm get really rude"
That really hurt my feelings because I didn't know where he was. He called me right after he sent the text talking more crazy stuff and saying I have three other children and there mothers love me just like you do. He said youre not the only one that assist me and is there for me. He said youre going over board with this.He said thats why I didnt want to talk to you in the first place because you get too emotional. Im like what? You were the one that called me after so long begging and crying for me to come back into your life. WTH! He is so mean and disrespectful to me. He treats me nice one day and says I love you and then he gets like this. Then he will end calling me again trying to be nice like there is nothing wrong. I think he gets off on hurting me. I'm in such a vulnerable state right now. This past weekend I laid in bed all day and cried. Then I had a breakdown and curled up in a ball and cried so hard my chest hurt and I could not breath. I need help I have to move on. I was doing so good.
This idiot comes into my life talking about let me show you ive changed. I love you so much , your'e my backbone, I will never find anyone like you. And as soon as he knew he had me that's when all that went down the window and now I'm left picking up the pieces. I am here crying as I type right now.
"I just step outside to let you know that you are fucking up. I'm stating with one of my babe mom and I'm not going to show diss respect and get me kick out then I'm homeless. So why the fuck you bugging my phone keep going off and in pretending its just a friend. You going over board stop fucking texting and calling me daily, its hard to Miss you if you always hitting my phone. Further more you would won't me on phone with another girl if I'm living with you so show respect and cut that shit out. My last time telling you our I'm get really rude"
That really hurt my feelings because I didn't know where he was. He called me right after he sent the text talking more crazy stuff and saying I have three other children and there mothers love me just like you do. He said youre not the only one that assist me and is there for me. He said youre going over board with this.He said thats why I didnt want to talk to you in the first place because you get too emotional. Im like what? You were the one that called me after so long begging and crying for me to come back into your life. WTH! He is so mean and disrespectful to me. He treats me nice one day and says I love you and then he gets like this. Then he will end calling me again trying to be nice like there is nothing wrong. I think he gets off on hurting me. I'm in such a vulnerable state right now. This past weekend I laid in bed all day and cried. Then I had a breakdown and curled up in a ball and cried so hard my chest hurt and I could not breath. I need help I have to move on. I was doing so good.
This idiot comes into my life talking about let me show you ive changed. I love you so much , your'e my backbone, I will never find anyone like you. And as soon as he knew he had me that's when all that went down the window and now I'm left picking up the pieces. I am here crying as I type right now.
He is using his ability to donate viable sperm and father children as a vehicle to get his needs met. This in NOT what a good dad does. When he gets a job, some therapy and comes to you with a trust account for your child then I would give him a chance to prove he is sincere. (Not let him move in and take over.)
He is using his children as weapons to gain whatever he wants and he has 3 women to do that to - What a schmuck.
Don't let him get you down, don't cede that much power to him.
& though it hurts, you now KNOW what his game is, and are free to go NC and put your focus back on you and your child.
He should be the one giving you $ for child support. $200 buys a lot for a child. You owe him nothing buy a court order for child support.
Take care of you & your child. You now know you'll never be able to count on him for anything other than heartache.
GL&TC!