Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Both jlbch42, in her thread titled, "So VERY Sad!" and dbpalm
shared with us a news story. In jbch42, there was a link
which I followed. It was so valuable, I'm pasting it in here
with all the credit info.
It was on:
MidlandsConnect.com (powered by Fox)
Murder-suicide highlights concerns about domestic violence
by Emily Pace
Posted: 03.16.2011 at 12:06 AM
COLUMBIA (WACH) -- The triple murder-suicide that took place Tuesday night in Lexington could be the latest case in a string of domestic violence incidents.
In the past two months, officials report there has been 11 domestic violence deaths across South Carolina.
Getting out of a bad relationship is often see as a solution, but in some cases leaving can be lethal, according to Executive Director Vicki Bourus of the South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.
When a woman separates from, moves away, or breaks up with an abusive partner it is the most dangerous time for her, Bourus says.
Authorities have yet to determine a motive, but accuse estranged boyfriend Chancey Smith of killing Amanda Peake and her two children before turning the gun on himself.
The Lexington County Sheriffs Department says the couple recently ended their three month relationship.
There is no doubt he wanted to make sure that the female victim was dead, says Sheriff James Metts.
Peake never filed a complaint indicating prior problems.
The person who is abusing is not necessarily suffering from an anger issue, says Bourus. They have a control issue, and so if those controlling decisions are not as effective as the person would like them to be, it often begins to become threatening.
There are warning signs to help determine if a person is in an abusive relationship with someone, and those include: the batterer will monitor where the victim can go, is highly critical of the individual's friends and tries to isolate them from family.
What I think people need to understand is when they are in an abusive relationship it doesn't get better, it always gets worse.
Bourus advises for those in an abusive relationship to create a plan to leave. She recommends victims to seek an order of protection and secure a safe place to live before leaving their situation.
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shared with us a news story. In jbch42, there was a link
which I followed. It was so valuable, I'm pasting it in here
with all the credit info.
It was on:
MidlandsConnect.com (powered by Fox)
Murder-suicide highlights concerns about domestic violence
by Emily Pace
Posted: 03.16.2011 at 12:06 AM
COLUMBIA (WACH) -- The triple murder-suicide that took place Tuesday night in Lexington could be the latest case in a string of domestic violence incidents.
In the past two months, officials report there has been 11 domestic violence deaths across South Carolina.
Getting out of a bad relationship is often see as a solution, but in some cases leaving can be lethal, according to Executive Director Vicki Bourus of the South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.
When a woman separates from, moves away, or breaks up with an abusive partner it is the most dangerous time for her, Bourus says.
Authorities have yet to determine a motive, but accuse estranged boyfriend Chancey Smith of killing Amanda Peake and her two children before turning the gun on himself.
The Lexington County Sheriffs Department says the couple recently ended their three month relationship.
There is no doubt he wanted to make sure that the female victim was dead, says Sheriff James Metts.
Peake never filed a complaint indicating prior problems.
The person who is abusing is not necessarily suffering from an anger issue, says Bourus. They have a control issue, and so if those controlling decisions are not as effective as the person would like them to be, it often begins to become threatening.
There are warning signs to help determine if a person is in an abusive relationship with someone, and those include: the batterer will monitor where the victim can go, is highly critical of the individual's friends and tries to isolate them from family.
What I think people need to understand is when they are in an abusive relationship it doesn't get better, it always gets worse.
Bourus advises for those in an abusive relationship to create a plan to leave. She recommends victims to seek an order of protection and secure a safe place to live before leaving their situation.
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The reason I have decided to settle my divorce HIS WAY. I get barely NOTHING, and yet we will be able to remain "FRIENDS". I lose "everything" but gain safety and freedom. (I hope)
It is all about control. I 110 percent agree.
I guess I came here at a good time. Thanks for the article.
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It's terrifying, all of it. Thanks for posting Ilene and Life. Thanks for the reminder that, just because we are away from them, doesn't mean that we are entirely safe.