Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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Im so sick of the BS !!!

blessed19
blessed19
Lately I have been really trying to get past this BS with my ex and move on. It seems like everytime im trying to do that he finds a way back in! Last night im sleeping have to be up at 530 in the morning. I keep hearing my phone ringing off the hook at 3:30 n the morning. He called me like three times then finally i just pickedup. He asked me why I hadnt picked up his phone call. I was like I was sleep duh!! Its three in the morning. He was like I called you 4 or 5 hrs ago and you didnt pick up. I told him that I never got a call from him 4 or 5 hrs ago. He was like "stop lying to me"" what were you doing" and he was like "dont fucking lie to me"! Then he was like "thats why I treat you the way I do cause you are always pissing me off". Then he says when I get back in town thats your ass! He said "you know that right"? Like im supposed to say yes ok master I will be getting my ass beat. I need to get him out of my life quick,fast and in a hurry! Like Rhianna says "Fuck Love" You need to look at the situation in third person. Then he was like I want to come get my son and Im thinking HELL NAW! He wants to get him the last two weeks of July and take him to Mississipi. I was like over my dead body. My little boy does not know him its not like he was there at all. I would go insane if he took him out of state. The only time he saw him was when my son was a week old thats it. Then he says that I dont want to hear you crying or nothing cause he is going. A few months ago I was supposed to meet him with my son so they could see eachother and he cancelled on me. So I tried im done with that part. Before last night he had really hurt my feelings and made me feel so bad and I promised my self i would never deal with him. I dont even know why I pickedup the phone last night cause now im stressed. Supposed to be a happy time in my life and I am stressed out! My brother is graduating Saturday and were having a party so much good stuff going on BUT the DEVIL always finds a way to ruin things. DS please pray for me I really need it right now. I just wish he would just leave me alone and let me be. He is all in love with some other girl so why are you still trying to controll what I do. ARRGGGHHHH!!!! :(
IleneW
IleneW
He will NOT leave you alone.

You have to block him at every opening.

You have to brick up your life, wherever he's trying to connect with you.

Abusers do not willingly let go of someone they've victimized.
The victim has to escape ---- to lose the BS and the ABUSE.

NO CONTACT
NO CONTACT
NO CONTACT

You have to BLOCK him or you have to DISAPPEAR.

That's how you stop the BS.
blessed19
blessed19
Sometimes I wonder why I have to go through this! I wish I never met him. I LOVE my son to death but wish that I never had a child by him! IIENEW thanks so much youre always so helpful. You are soooo RIGHT. Guess ill be changing my number. IM DONE !
deleted_user
deleted_user
and if that doesn't work, contact the proper authorities and get a restraining order against this BIPOLAR ANIMAL!! That way,if he contacts you again, he gets a one way ticket...TO THE SLAMMER ..maybe that is where hw needs to be!!

Tom B. aka Ihman
Livndadrem
Livndadrem
Yup, changing your number is what I was going to suggest. You do NOT need that crap. And while it's easy to say not to engage, just to hang up on him if he tries that kind of crap - I mean really, even if you WERE out and about, what business is it of his? He's your EX ffs - where DO these guys get off, with their sense of entitlement and ownership? They move on to someone else, but you are supposed to still sit at their feet like a well trained dog? Ugh. Ok rant over. The point is, if he is ringing at 3am and not giving up, then it's near impossible to think straight at that time of night. Sooooooooooooooo ... change your number.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would venture to say hehe will not leave you alone. I am going through this harassment. It's too bad you have a son that you love and this guy was the father. I don't knowif he has rights to see his child by court order. What a pain in the --- he is. You have enough to deal with. Pray and break this soul-tie with him, and find peace- maybe go to al-anon or NA-THERWILL BE PLENTY OF SUPPORT FOR ABUSED WOMEN. aLSO, if you tell the police he treatened to hurt you-I think you can get a restraining order-so you don't have to wait until he might do that. By law, that comment he made was a threat to your well-being and grounds for protection. Although he might not listen to the order-if he has contact with you-the police will arrest him. I have gone through this horror before and they sometimes don't listen. They might stalk. IIeneW has good ideas, and she knows my situation, before you get hurt further and stressed like me-get out of town. Please pray if you can-break the soul ties too-that is hard. Help is available, reach out and get it, talk to a woman's abuse hotline- they will direct you. Luck be to you.
happiness09
happiness09
I've gone through exactly the same in the past. I'd leave him then my phone would start and this would go on for days until I gave in, but mine was more manipulative and would get me to feel guilty for ignoring. That crazy relationship lasted 8 years until I had a breakdown, that was 2 years ago.. I only got rid by changing my e-mail, house and mobile number, not replying to the letters he was posting, I live 100 miles away, he's moved on, yet will still post stuff, even to my neighbours house just to get me to respond. He's trying to prevent you from moving on and find happiness, he thinks he can own your life now that you have a child. He's his child by birth, if he took him out of state ask yourself would he return him or would he use him as a way to get you down to mississippi. For this reason alone you must file something against him, so that you have proof of his harrassment, useful if it should ever come to a court battle for custody or visitation.
Consider moving where he can't find your child.