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Idk how I'm supposed to feel

lalaland25
lalaland25

I was raped a few weeks ago and don't know how to feel about it.. it keeps replaying in my head.. guys around me makes my anxiety through the roof and I find myself crying sporadically. I just want to feel normal again.. whatever that means. I tried to have sex w other guys thinking maybe that would help but it only makes it worse I just keep seeing his face play in my mind.. I keep telling myself I could've stopped him but I didn't I just froze like a statue as he took over me.. 

pandora77
pandora77
I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. I went through something similar and it's been really difficult, so I understand your pain. I keep having flashbacks too. I also froze when this happened to me. Please don't blame yourself. You did nothing wrong. It's not your fault.

Did you go to a rape clinic or OBGYN after this happened? I want to know that you're okay physically.
I've been in intensive therapy and going to groups, which has helped me. It's something to look into if you feel it would help.

You'll make it through this. Stay strong and take care of yourself.
h.e.a.l.
h.e.a.l.
Hon ----

You're "supposed" to feel
however it is you're feeling.
You suffered an ATTACK.
You're entitled to any and
every feeling that's come
after that. How you feel
is how you're supposed
to feel.


As the previous responder
asked, I hope you've been
to a hospital or private doctor.

Further, frankly ----- if you
did not give consent for
this to happen, then it was
a sexual assault and you're
entitled to file a police report.


Finally ----- please go to your
nearest women's center and
ask to sit down and talk with
a counselor.

Having random sex to try
and put this behind you is
unlikely to ever get you
past this. There are much
better ways to process
this assault, so that you
can move forward into
your future having recovered
and being able to function
in a healthy and happy way.

Sending you hugs
and wishes for
recovery and healing.
lalaland25
lalaland25
I have been to a doctor and I am fine physically.. mentally not so much and it's affecting my job as a massage therapist luckily I haven't had many guys lately mostly women but when I do get a new guy it's a challenge.
GOLDHEART
GOLDHEART
HI I AM NEW, MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU.
I GATHER YOU ARE YOUNG.
PLEASE TAKE TIME TO HEAL, HAVING SEX SHOULD BE THE LAST THING ON YOUR MIND.
DID YOU GO TO THE DOCTOR AND HAVE TESTS DONE ? THIS SHOULD BE YOUR 1ST PRIORITY, IN CASE YOU HAVE CAUGHT A DISEASE OR PREGNANT.
CAN YOU CHARGE HIM ?
DO YOU HAVE A SEXUAL ASSAULT CENTRE, OR A WOMAN'S HEALTH CENTRE ?
PLEASE GO,
I UNDERSTAND HOW HARD IT IS, I NEVER DID TILL YEARS LATER, AND STILL SUFFER.
IT DOES GET EASIER IN THE FUTURE.