Well I'm in a few support groups here and maybe you are too. I'm trying to make my decision about asking my husband for a divorce. I believe he has been emotionally abusive to me at times. It's not often, maybe it would be if we lived together daily. He is away all the time for work, he's a long haul truck driver and we live on Vancouver Island in B.C. so there is always a ferry ride which is expensive and awkward at times. So he's home once a month for 2-4 days. We have talked about moving but I won't.....my support system is here. I don't love him enough to move and he knows I would be miserable. He drinks, is an alcoholic and if I'm talking to him on the phone I can always tell when he's been drinking. I make the mistake of calling him out on it and he can get mean. I've stopped doing that, but I shouldn't have to keep my concerns in for fear of being hurt?
He swears at me (but it's common, it's impossible to talk to him without a swear thrown in as it's how he's used to talking), he has sometimes thrown things, he's broken things, but never touched me, though I have been really scared a few times. He will tell me it's my fault for saying something that makes him mad. He will through things in my face if I accuse him of something. I'm always trying to get him to quit smoking and drinking and if I say something about it he often brings up my weight and tells me to stop being fat then and so on. He loves my body the way it is, I know that. But he says I don't bug you about your weight and shortcomings so leave me alone about mine. I don't know if this is true emotional abuse since it's not an overly common occurrence and because I know better to not say things that will make him mad.