Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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TryingToForget 08/03/2008

i finally stood up agenst my mom when she slaped my sister, i had never said anything to her before, when she hit and yelled at us she scared me the first time she called me and my brother useless s*** heads but my sister is 2 years old and i would give my life for her. i was shakeing all over, i was so scared of her, i never spoke my mind before. i told her not to hit jade, she actuly told me if i didn't want to see it to go in my room. i nearly cryed, i was so afraid she was going to slap me, but i dont think she so big now that im nearly as big as her. she makes it seem like its my fault that she works from 10pm to 6 am then sleeps all day and the mess was my fault and that i do nothing for her. i look after my sister day and night well she sleeps and works, i think she blames me for her crapy life. i dont know mabie im over reacting but if she ever lays a hand on jade agen im calling social services.

deleted_user 08/03/2008

I don't have any advice. I have a mom who loves me dearly. My husband was the abusive one. I'm so sorry for what you're going through - and I know that doesn't really help.

But be careful standing up to your mom, okay? I know you're are almost as big as she is - according to what you said - but just be careful. Abusers are unstable.

If she does hit your little sister again you will have to make a decision - and it's probably not going to be an easy one. But be strong.

Is there anyone you can talk to about what's going on? Just to have someone who knows what happens and in the event you needed an escape plan could be there?

I don't know in your situation if there is a right or a wrong answer. You have to do what's best for you and family...just becareful.

GOD Bless - and if you ever need to talk I'm here.

deleted_user 08/03/2008

Congratulations. I, for one, am proud of you for stainding up to her! i think you should call social services now before she can hurt Jade again. it's not your fault she has a crappy life, it is the life she made with her disictions. i have never had the guts to staind up to my mother, but i wish i did.

deleted_user 08/04/2008

good for you! it's a great thing that you stood up for your baby sister.. after all, she's completely helpless and innocent . I hope, if she does hit you or your siblings again that you have the strength to call social services. It can be a scary thing, but it may be for the best.

deleted_user 08/04/2008

I am proud of you too, it must have taken alot of strength and courage to stand up to her. Do take care of yourself s tigers says, but also know that you can make a difference. I don't want to tell you to do anything when i don't kow the ins and outs of anything and like tigers, my abuse was from my husband, not a parent, but speaking to social services, or even a teacher to start off with, hopefully would get you lots of support. Take care.

deleted_user 08/04/2008

Is there someone you can go to for help? Does your mom need help? Has your mother always behaved that way? It is ok and the right thing to do to stick up for yourself and to protect your family. I'm so very proud of you for protecting your baby sister. She's so little and doesn't know what is going on. I'm sorry that you've got such big responsibilities for being just a kid yourself. Remember though, no matter how much you may not like some of the things you're expected to do, someone else thinks you're a hero for the things you do. I think you're a great kid. Keep your chin up and just believe all will be ok. :)

deleted_user 08/05/2008

sounds like it might be time for some professional help with your home situation. You should be enjoying your days, not being a scapegoat or victim. Don't hesitate calling for help because of fear of her...she is so wrong in what she is doing! Good luck!

deleted_user 08/05/2008

I am proud of you too! No one should ever slap a two-year-old! I know it took courage for you to stand up to your mom. I honor you for stepping into your power.

*sending you hugs and healing*

deleted_user 08/05/2008

You are so brave! Hugs to you for standing up to her - I know how much courage that takes as I have been abused by my mother. Please try and get official help for yourself and your sister as you should not have to carry this load alone. Healing Hugs, Viv XXX

deleted_user 08/05/2008

I see that you're pretty young. You should not have to be experiencing this. You should talk to someone you trust, like a minister or teacher or counselor at school. Your mom needs some help and needs to get it quick, it sounds like.

deleted_user 09/01/2008

My mother actually blames me to this day for NOT getting in the middle of fights when her SON and HUSBAND were involved! my poor sibling did, and m likes her better to this day and i have had to endure 30 yrs of that rejection, fact.. twisted. honey, try calling a relative or friend to get you and your sister out of there.. we dont want you or sis in foster care, so try the relatives first.. and see if they can be at least a temporary guardian because sounds like you both need to be away from her and she needs psychological help, period. I know how hard and hellish it is, believe me. PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN NO WAY TO BLAME FOR ANY OF THIS NO MATTER WHAT SHE OR ANY0NE ELSE SAYS..

deleted_user 09/04/2008

My mom was slapping my nephew around and I called the police on her, now my whole family won't talk to me, but that's ok, my life is alot better for it anyway, I am just not the type to sit and watch sh*t happen when it comes to abuse we have too many sick people walking around as it is.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

by the way you did the right thing, good work.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

wildangel hi again! my grandfather slapped my brother in the face at age 1 1/2! I was told, dad excused it as a 'tap'.. oh please! we didnt see my grandparents until i was 6-7 yrs old after that. tch, all these stories are inexcusable and so sad.

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