Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
This dating world sucks. I have had 2 dates wiht a man who appears nice, we went to the same high school, have lots of friends in common, etc. Today he called and asked me if I wanted to come to his house tomorrow for dinner, he's a chef, and guess what I said I was uncomfortable with that and could we meet for lunch instead. He said that would be perfect. THERE IS NO WAY I AM GOING TO SOMEONES HOUSE THAT I DON'T KNOW THAT WELL, I DON'T CARE WHO HE IS. He said he respected my decision. That felt so good even though I had a hard time with it.
You are doing exactly what you need to do---looking out for yourself!!
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And we have a hard time with boundaries because most of us have been taught that we have no right to them, that we are being selfish if we don't do exactly as the other person wishes. And because we don't value ourselves highly enough - we are afraid that if we say "no", the other person will just not bother with us any more.
What I've learned about boundaries is that, if someone does walk away from me because I set a boundary, then they weren't worth having anywhere near me anyway.
Good for you setting the boundary, and good for him for respecting it.