Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I think I have finally realized that he is never going to change..... he doesn't physically abuse me anymore only emotional. Lately I have just had enough of it..... he always makes me mad and never even cares, he acts like he does sometimes ( I say acts like it because I think if he really ment it he would show that he cared more). He only cares about one thing and that money. When I call him from work he doesn't ask how my day is going just how much money I have made.I want him to change so bad but I dont think he is.... I need to just give up but I am so afraid to. Things are so good when he is nice and when he "acts" like he cares. I dont know how to do it, i wish i would just stop caring about him so it would be easier!
You sound like you are on the right path. The hardest thing for me was accepting that I was in an abusive relationship and thinking I needed to get out. It sounds like you "know" you need to get out but dont know "how". I can honestly tell you that learning to care about yourself first and others after was the hardest step for me. And unfortunately that is literally what you have to do. You have to learn to love yourself and care for yourself more than anyone else in order to move on. You're doing the right thing by seeking support. Let me know if this helps.
For me the most helpful thing was information. I just typed "emotional abuse" in my search engine, and loads of information came up. I learned. Oh, how I learned. I finally got it through my thick head that I WAS emotionally abused..my KIDS were emotionally abused, and it was NEVER going to change..and that WE deserved better. Even if it meant being alone, that was better.
It's good to have the support of people who understand.