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bayrabbit01
bayrabbit01
Hi. I need some advice. I live in a four-plex, which means that i live in the upper floor of a duplex, i have someone living in the suite below me, somebody that lives beside me in the othe half of the duplex and then there is a suite below my neighbour. My problem is that my BF doesn't like the girl who lives below us because the girl in the lower suite below my neighbour (who recently moved out) was "bad mouthing my BF" in his mind anyways. The girl that lives below me didn't want to get involved in his hatred for the girl who recently moved out...and by just saying a little bit about what her gripes were about my BF....and now that he doesn't like the girl who lives below us puts me in a tough spot. I think he is making a big fuss about nothing...and he obviously feels the opposite. Now i feel that he expects me to end my friendship with the girl that lives below us, or live with him sulking all the time. I don't know what to do. Any adive would be very much appreciated!!
IleneW
IleneW
If his choice is to
act out because
he can't control
your choices,
seems like you
have to decide
if life with someone
who expects to
control you or act
out when he can't,
is the life you
want to be leading.
bayrabbit01
bayrabbit01
Thank you so much for the comment Ilene. It does make sense to my head but my heart says something else. He DOES WANT TO MANIPULATE me in any way that he can. Last night...it was to ignore me in every way...just because i didn't agree with him. The girl from downstairs didn't even want to get into the conversation about what our neighbour did or fidn't say. The only reason she said what she did to my BF was because he kept on saying "i know she told you lies about me....and i want to know what she said". So the girl that lives downstairs from us had to give him any sort of answer...and all our neighbour had said about him was that he was a little pushy when it came to parking spaces on our property. Really it was NO BIG DEAL, but BF had to make it into something huge!! Also the girl that lives downstairs from us is still friends with the girl that moved recently, and intended to stay friends with her, and my BF doesn't like that because he thinks the girl that moved out will talk more smack about him as time goes on and that the girl downstairs will just believe whatever she hears. However, the only interaction my BF had with the girl downstairs was when i was socializing with her and the new girl that moved in beside her (to the basement suite on the other side of the duplex). So unlike me who has been socializing with these girls ever since they moved in, he takes 1 off comment about how pushy he is with the parking situation here and he makes a big fuss about it!!