Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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I just want it to be over

bzzykaz
bzzykaz
I am in an emotionally abusive relationship now (same-sex) and I am trying to end it. Problems are: I have no money and we only have one car AND she is determined to salvage the relationship because she has been in love with me for 25 years. All I want is to get enough money to get my own place so my kids and I can escape her mood swings and be done with this.

I have no real suppot system (my fault, I guess...who has no friends, right?), and my family has become kind of distant over the same-sex thing. We also moved kind of far away. Consistent with controlling partners, I have learned too late. Everything is such a mess.

I have just started therapy and a part-time job. It was all I could get after being on disability for 4 years. I tried. I feel like the biggest loser in the universe.

Thanks for letting me vent.
beansprout
beansprout
It's never too late, not ever. Please, contact your local women's centre or DV centre. They will be able to advise you on emergency escape plans, your rights and what other supports they can offer you. With your family, is it possible for you to contact them and let them know what's happening? Regardless of your sexual orientation, I'm sure they wouldn't want you in such a situation. As for the friends thing, you won't be surprised to learn that this is also common for abused women to have been cut off from their friends too, having had to choose between them and their abusers for example. Please, in the meantime, take real good care of yourself, self care is extremely important and don't let your abuser know you are planning to leave her, this can be the most dangerous time. I'm sorry you are in this position, but keep posting, you have friends here
mamacoxx4
mamacoxx4
Sounds like you are making some progress,so please give yourself some credit for that. Realizing you're in a bad relationship, making the decision to get out and taking steps to make it happen..job and therapy..fantastic start!! No friends?? Me neither, but that can change too:) This is such a great place to start..its where I get 99% of the help I need. I didn't work for almost 19 years!! I'm currently doing a paper route,babysitting and looking to do cleaning jobs..and I'm going to start school..and I'm no spring chicken!! I'm 43 and deliver papers, but it pays the bills.Please reach out to your family..you never know. If they support you and help you,great..if not your no worse off. Keep making progress and be proactive without letting her know!! Research,call your local YWCA..keep moving forward..we are here for you!!
wvartgirl
wvartgirl
Hey hon, don't beat yourself up. It can happen to anyone.

You hav already started on a new path. A new job, therapy, and posting here for support. You are already building your support network and working your way out of abuse. That is awesome.

You are welcome to vent here anytime. And I am sending hugs to you for better days ahead.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's never ever to late to learn anything!! Gay, straight, sqiggle line....we all need relationships in our life. Stop blaming yourself for not having any friends...this is what abusers do. They make sure you don't have any contact with anyone that could help you..You are not a loser! You have a part time job, and you are trying to make a better life for you and your children.And you are in therapy...that takes courage...Like I said, it is never too late to change your life for the better. This site is for venting....if we don't know what is going on with your life, how can we help you? About your family acceptance of your life style, I wish there was something I could do to help you with that one..Contact your nearest women's center in your area. Or contact your local domestic violence shelter, they will be able to advise you, and help. Please stay on this site! Abuse is abuse....No one deserves to be abused in any way, shape or form.....Keep us posted. You have to learn how to take of you. Information is power! This site is awsome.