Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
im only 15 years old and ever since i was a ilttle girl, i have been terrified of my father. my parents are divorced but he lives right down the street from me, forcing me to see him all the time. im always so anxious and depressed and desperate for drugs whenever i have to see him... im so scared of him. we just got back from visiting family and while we were there he read through my personal text messages with my boyfriends which talked about sex. not to mention other messages about drugs. im such a dissapointment to my family. the second i was alone with him he grabbed my wrists and threw me on the ground and continuously hit me and punched me until i was not able to speak. i managed to phone the police. when they got there, i could barely speak due to my severe panic attack. They couldnt even do anything about it except ask for him to leave.. when he went to his car he said "you're dead now." im so alone and i have no one to talk to about this. i just want to grow up and move out so i dont have to see him again. im so scared and desperate for help// please somebody
If you're in the US, call the toll free child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 . This is for non-sexual abuse. Other numbers are here: https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/reslist/tollfree/
If you don't think of yourself as a child anymore, maybe you can call the "Family Violence" hotline instead, at 1-800-799-7233
Make sure to erase logs of your call afterward if you can. Same goes for browser history. You don't want your abuser to find out.
Hang in there.
( http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/ )
What drugs?
There are some drugs that will take your life down FAST before you've even really started and change it in ways where it will never be the same. (Meth and Heroin) Whatever hell you're living in now...it's not worth it. Call help lines, keep calling help lines...but drugs are NOT the answer.
Drugs and sex...bad, bad, bad, bad news.
The consequences for your child could last the rest of their life...don't do it, don't do it, don't do it.
Call the hotlines given to you, and speak to family and friends about it. Call the police about the threat. Your father should not get away with this abusive behavior.
If you ever need someone to talk/rant to, you can message me. I'll be willing to listen and help. I hope the best for you.
The police said they couldnt do anything because "hes my father" and "he has the right to punish me"
Unless you live in a "third-world" country, this is not how police are trained.
If you're in the U.S. or other developed society, there are a whole list of social service agencies waiting to ensure that no child is treated as you've described. Also, in the U.S., there are what's called "mandated reporters." Any doctor, nurse, social worker, law officer and possibly even clergy, are mandated reporters. Please go to someone you trust, and possibly even a doctor you know will listen to and believe you. Have them help you file a police report about all that you've experienced.
You shouldn't be having to live this way.
Go to someone you know and trust and
have them help you. Or, if you can't think
of anyone like that, call social services, your
local health department or the women's center.
You're on your way to being grown up.
You can learn now, how to protect
and care for yourself, since your
family has, indeed, become a
danger to you. The way to do
that at this point, is to connect
yourself with the supports that
are already in place, to help
protect you from harm.
~healing hugs~
I had an abusive father when I was a kid. I was working on my escape plan at your age and think now's the time to start. If you start working on your plan now, you will be ready when you are 18. Until then just try to avoid the threats the best you can. Try to keep the guy calm, play the game to keep yourself safe. Here are some universal truths that I used and that I think might help you escape.
1. Education - School is the only thing you have control over right now. If you start getting straight A's adults will notice and possibly help, especially financial aid advisers. Pour everything you've got into making yourself stand out. Education is the only escape for people like us. I actually graduated top of my class, two weeks later my Dad who I was living with slit a man's throat with a box cutter.
2. No Drugs - The peer pressure was ridiculous! But your brain is very malleable right now, this is the time in your life when you create habits that will stick with you until you die. Again make yourself stand out from all the people around you. I know the weed helps, but not using it will teach you how to be even stronger and deal with the hard realities of life straight on. These skills come in handy later!
3. Get a job, work and save your money. Hide it, open a bank and don't tell your family you have money. Lie if you have to. You'll need 5k at least to get a starter car and pay your portion of any rent when you move in with a friend.
4. Just always try to make the wisest and most responsible choices you can. Develop a hatred for how your parents have chosen to live their life. Absorb everything you see like a sponge, let them teach you what not to do and make your goal to not be the apple that lands close to the tree. Be the apple that rolls down the hill, into the river, and floats away to the ocean!
On the flipside, absorb as much good info as you can from any decent in your life. Try to act like the people who live live's that you'd like someday.
I'm wishing you the best, just keep in mind that the next 4 years could be the hardest of your life if you play your cards right. That's a good thing, because when you go through that kind of adversity and survive, the life you create is so much sweeter for it. Or if you do nothing, you'll likely live a very similar lifestyle forever, finding boyfriends who are abusive, etc., how does that sound? Like shit, right?
My websites in my profile if you want to keep in touch.
Best,
Brock