Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I just don't understand how my fears are irrational and stupid. I told someone last night one of my deepest fears and they didn't say it was ok, or it's understandable, they just said one day i'll reach the point of growth where i won't be afraid of it and see it's pointless to be afraid of it. It broke me bc it felt like all the work i've put into myself and it's not enough. Everything i feel is still stupid. Idk what to do, if i fight about it with this person i'll just get hurt more, so idk whether to just internalize it like i do with everything else... i'm sorry for this rant, i didn't have anywhere else to talk about it.
That's why I'm hoping that
you can find a way to get
some kind of counseling
set up.
First of all, nothing
you feel is stupid,
but not everyone is
going to be able to
support you in the
way that a qualified
therapist can.
Second, you have
been emotionally
injured by growing
up in an abusive
family of origin.
Your injuries are
painful and need
to be addressed
by a qualified
clinician. I know
you're hoping to
start college this
year, and most
colleges have
counseling departments.
But till you get there
you need professional
support. I hope there's
some way you can put
that together, sooner
than later.
I'm so sorry for your
obvious pain. I hope
you get some kind
of protection and
support very, very
soon, so you'll
feel better as
quickly as
possible.
Did they say that? Or did you think that?
I was afraid of many things in my past...none of which were irrational at the time, but none of which do I really care about now. Some things happened, most didn't. I've learned that I'm a whole lot more able to handle things that I realized that I was.
I think that's why so many people are happiest in their 50's. Their fears are mostly behind them. What is...is. And they live with it. If they want they'll wear purple hats, or have 50 cats, or whatever. I know people with no kids...that are happy. And people with eight kids...that are happy. People with kids that they have had estranged...and they're happy. People that babysit their grandkids 60 hours a week...that are happy.
I know people in million dollar homes that are miserable too, or...all of the above...happiness ends up being more of a choice than I ever knew...
Life just sort of turns out.
you'll be ok someday i promise