Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I just got off lunch and back at work.
I was "helping" him fill out his application for a job, he starts yelling at me blah, blah, blah
nothing insulting but I yelled back at him, "do your own application, geez hollering at me"
Well he crumpled up his app and dropped me off at work. So of course it will be my fault the a**hole doesn't get a job.
I told him any time you need anythilng this payday remember you crumpled up your application. and I told him have a nice day. and slammed the door shut and went on into work.
ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So anyway, I am the only one with a job out of four adult in my home. and my bills just stress me out.
Im not in any real trouble, but I just had to vent to you guys.
I know this situation doesn't get any better, it only gets worse.
He will call any minute and apologize to me for all his A**hole actions and I will tell him, that he is an A**hole and he knows it.
In reality why should I fill out another adults application? He is an adult and he should be doing all that for his self right? ugh! People all tell me I am too nice. I try to be understanding of him because he has really, really, really bad eye sight, even with his prescription eye glasses which are really thick glasses he has a hard time seeing. I feel bad, cuz sometimes we be watching tv and he will be like "what happened?" at first I thought he was asking to see if I got the plot of the movie, or whatever. But I seriously think he has worse eyesight than he lets on. Idk. I am at a loss. He has the lazy eye too. I never noticed that until recently. I was like a lot clicked in my head about his insecurities and short temper.
But still in the same note he doesn't have to be angry at me for his short comings.
ok I think I am done venting thank you guys for sticking in there with me.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
p.s. I want to win the lottery someday or something lol
I was "helping" him fill out his application for a job, he starts yelling at me blah, blah, blah
nothing insulting but I yelled back at him, "do your own application, geez hollering at me"
Well he crumpled up his app and dropped me off at work. So of course it will be my fault the a**hole doesn't get a job.
I told him any time you need anythilng this payday remember you crumpled up your application. and I told him have a nice day. and slammed the door shut and went on into work.
ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So anyway, I am the only one with a job out of four adult in my home. and my bills just stress me out.
Im not in any real trouble, but I just had to vent to you guys.
I know this situation doesn't get any better, it only gets worse.
He will call any minute and apologize to me for all his A**hole actions and I will tell him, that he is an A**hole and he knows it.
In reality why should I fill out another adults application? He is an adult and he should be doing all that for his self right? ugh! People all tell me I am too nice. I try to be understanding of him because he has really, really, really bad eye sight, even with his prescription eye glasses which are really thick glasses he has a hard time seeing. I feel bad, cuz sometimes we be watching tv and he will be like "what happened?" at first I thought he was asking to see if I got the plot of the movie, or whatever. But I seriously think he has worse eyesight than he lets on. Idk. I am at a loss. He has the lazy eye too. I never noticed that until recently. I was like a lot clicked in my head about his insecurities and short temper.
But still in the same note he doesn't have to be angry at me for his short comings.
ok I think I am done venting thank you guys for sticking in there with me.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
p.s. I want to win the lottery someday or something lol
You know, I am just figuring out, and I am 64, that I was brought up by my grandparents, who were wonderful people, but they believed that everyone counted more than they did, or I did. I am just now getting that. I have always thought it was my job to keep everyone happy and I would come second--or 3rd.
It has been 10 years since my abusive hubby died and I am just figuring out what a great joy it is becoming in my life to put myself FIRST!!!!!!!!!!!
I think you need some of putting yourself first.
I think if I were you, ( of course I've had some time by myself that I am now number 1,) I would just plain up and run away. I would not put up with any of them. I would be so tired of feeling used and abused, and definitely not appreciated. I would take a very long vacation or maybe even choose not to come back. They only care about you as long as they can use you and take whatever they can get from you. They do not treat you with respect and only treat you with love when they want something.
You must be a Saint, Baby, I would be done. I still have some things to work on for me, but I am getting there!!!
I hope things get better for you. You can only change yourself. You can't change them!!!!
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im totally starting to get the picture, I do, I do, and I do and seems he don't, he don't and he don't. ugh!!!
I am slowly starting to put myself first in certain areas careful not to ruffle his feathers if you know what I mean. And I make it look like I am doing it for him sometimes but its for me mainly.
I don't know if you get that. But I think what counselors call it is suvival mode, we learn to survive while we are in abuse. And I think that is where I am at.
It crazy but my daughter who lived with sexual abuse taught me some of her skills, as I was too brainwashed at the time to even notice we were living in abuse. But now my daughter somehow thinks i am dumb or ignorant because she always belittles me too. But I kicked her out last week she turned it around and says I am abusive to her. and told me I wasn't going to see my grand baby when born because i am too abusive. so on and so on. she will be back again because she has no job and no education and barely any transportation.
just the vicious cyle of abuse that I have chosen to live in. if its not my So, its my daughter. and so on and so on.
So even though there are bad days, i have my good moments to count on in life and attend to those more than I do the bad moments.
So thankful for my children.
So he got his app filled out all by his self. good for him. now I can go home and relax a bit.
I hope he gets some sort of job. ugh!!!
I tell him "omgoodness, if you were at your mom's would she fill it out for you."
I swear he is such a baby and doesn't do anything for his self. I turned back around layed it down on the bed, told him "you have to sign and date it anyway, i'll just let you fill it out. luv ya," and turned around and walked out and came to work.
he mumbles,"ok"
I am going to a luncheon at noon for my daughter, we'll see if by then he has it filled out and turned in.
I have to start standing up for myself and making everyone in the house know I am in serious trouble with my bills and they are going to have to start pitching in and helping with the bills somehow.
I am really stressing right now. I am two payments behind on my truck and getting more stuck as time goes on. But I know I can do this. Just need some extra income somewhere.
I really hope things get better for you, but stress kills, please take care of yourself.
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I'm in the process of leaving (hopefully within the next 2 weeks for good). I've been where you were, probably this time last year. Long story short, I lost my job and my car and had to desperately dig out of this hole for about 6 months to get to the point where I can possibly get out very shortly.
If you want to know about getting extra income, message me, I have a millions possibilities (and none of them MLM, unless you are into that) because I've had to scrape to get what I have today.
But you need to get out ASAP before he drags you down further. Step one is to not do anything for him that he can do for himself.
(hugs)