Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Today... has been an awful day, all because I wouldn't let the other half use my mobile phone.
I'd finished college, got home at about 6pm saw that he hadn't cleaned up or done any of the clothes washing that he said hed do and decided I would go and have a sulk whilst doing the dishes that I thought hed of done when I wasn't there. Whilst I was washing the dishes he came in and tried to give me a cuddle I said can you just leave me alone I'm not in the mood, so it was left at that. A few minutes later he came in the kitchen saying can I borrow your phone I said no it needs charging, he then continues to pester me about borrowing my phone telling me he's got a charger to charge it so he can use it, I said no your not using it (I hate him using it because all the numbers he rings will then ring me asking for him and most of the time I have NO idea who the people are), he carried on pestering me and I said look, I've just got in from college so can you please stop pestering me, he then proceeds to grab me by the neck as usual as for some reason this is what he always does, never hits, punches, kicks, always grabs me by the neck. As he was doing this he said carry on and I'm going throw you outside then said in fact you're going now, he pushes me outside while grabbing my neck, chucks my coat and shoes at me and says I'll pack the rest of your stuff later. My phone was dead, I couldn't ring the police so I walked to my mums house to do it there, off I walked with tears rolling down my face, so glad itwasdark so people didn't see me crying.
The police then came and arrested him while I waited up the top of the road, as an officer had to wait with my child who was luckily in bed when his dad got arrested.
I'm an emotional mess, he has a key to get in and I'm petrified he's going to come back and I know he will because his car keys are here. It's okay the police saying just ring us back if he comes back, but I'm so scared, if my son wasn't in bed when he got arrested I'd of gone to my mums place. I feel sick with nerves.
I've been awake since they messaged me at 5:45am, I now feel sick with nerves again...
You didn't "get him arrested."
He got himself arrested.
Grabbing someone's throat
is like a predator in the wild
"going for the jugular."
Grabbing a neck is the
clearest, most direct
way to KILL a victim.
THAT'S why he does
that. . . . . to show you
that he's perfectly capable
of killing you, as a threat
to keep you in line and
under his control.
You're right to be
scared of him.
Can you take your child
and go to your your mom's?
Please do whatever it takes
to STAY SAFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He came back at about 7am, I was already awake and he asked why I'd called the police and I said because I'm sick and tired of you hurting me, his response.. wow! was 'stop being a c*nt then'. I literally could not believe my ears, he's put all the blame on me yet again, I then got up, sorted our child out and off we went while he had a sleep because he'd been in a cell all night. Playing the worlds smallest violin and all that! Boo hoo!
I ended up telling his mum about it all, and she mentioned it to him while I was there, and he basically went on like I was a crazy bit*h and playing it dumb, saying I make him do this because of this other personality I've got which he gave a name (Katherine) he says 'I hate her' then proceeds to tell his mum what kind of thing I write in a book when I'd written a suicide letter before Christmas because he'd made me feel that depressed about myself telling me to pretty much hurry up and do it and telling me my son would be better off without me, but I felt 10x better once I'd vented it all out and read it back to myself, it cleared my head sort of thing, and obviously I didn't go through with it. He constantly tells me I have 2 personalities and makes out that I'm a crazy idiot, I suffer with depression for God's sake, I have days where I feel okay then I could be down for a while, but because he's telling me I've got 2 personalities I'm starting to actually believe I'm going crazy!
Then when his mum had taken our little one to his swimming lesson the dumbness went and it was 'so when are you leaving, I'm having our son, you'll have to get a job and look after yourself' so i said so will you (I dont work at the moment, not properly anyway, im on whats known as benefits, free money basically and as well as that i go to college to do make up level 3, so get the odd bit of work at the moment as I'm training) but he said this knowing full well that fuels the fire and I get anxious, worried, scared and paranoid that he's going to take the only thing that's keeping me stable right now!
Sorry for the long vent, I bet you guys are sick of seeing me post lol. I just wanted to get it off my chest before I just literally explode with anger, I could of screamed when him and his mum were talking about my depression.