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I got attacked by my dad

jennyoo7
jennyoo7

I hate this new format now btw lol may take a kk T time to get used to. 


Anyways my dad verbally attacked me last night, worse than my mom has since I was a kid, it caught me off guard and I even questioned if it was him texting me, told him i thought it was my mom texting then he said call me so I did. Man did I get an ear full, he was saying things that my mom said to me so it makes me think he's so far up her ass he takes her words for gospel. After trying to defend myself for one thing I quickly realized it was futile. He was picking apart the only wrong things I did and making fun of the things I had issues with ie he said poor you, you got ur feelers hurt. Everyone does suck it up. He said im such a woman, I thanked him for noticing lol. He said he can't have a relationship with me without my mom and I thanked him for drawing the line and letting me know where I stood as the Knowledge is so much easier than assuming. We both hung up on each other at the same time lol. In my defence he did sound like a little bitch on text and I'm paranoid so that's why accused him of being my mom. He may as well of been my mom, he's like her walking/talking puppet. In all fairness she did warn me this was going to hurt many, she got my dad involved and now him and I aren't speaking as well. Well done mom, lol. 


I can't even be mad anymore. It's all so enlightening, their hoovering and tit for tat and flying monkey business all just back fired and pushed me further away, except this time I have zero guilt or empathy for them because it's all so calculated and gross, I'm just staying as far away. 

patti22
patti22
How old are you? Do you live with your parents? What are they upset about? In general, it's a good thing when parents make a decision together. But it depends on how old you are, and what the issues are.....
donnawanda
donnawanda
It's a shame your mom owns your dad like that, and it doubles your loss, but as you say, at least you know where you stand now.
jennyoo7
jennyoo7
I'm 35 and they're upset about me getting angry about my boundaries being crossed and disrespecting me. They're mad because they eagerly pushed my buttons, well my mom did, and then waited for me to lash out like I always do. I said some hurtful names. This is the pattern of my life. I get upset, I confront the person doing it, they tell me I'm too sensitive or that I misunderstood, I ask for space to calm down, I get a million phone calls until I break, still no sorry and more telling me I have anger issues, I scream out of frustrations and name call. Original issue is forgotten and the main focus becomes on the name calling. It's taken me 3 years plus a life time to figure this out.
donnawanda
donnawanda
It sounds like you've really got it figured out now, and are very clear. Good for you! What I hated most about my abusive family of origin is the way they insisted that I get down in the mud and wrestle with them, when all I wanted was to stay out of it and find some peace.
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