Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I just got a text from my youngest dad, he dropped her off with grandma because he lost his firefly with his resume on it. I feel sad when he jumps off his sober wagon, but there is nothing I can do.
I can only hope that one day he will make it a number one priority to be sober for himself and then look at his daughter and see how much she means to him, and how she cries for him when she is not there.
I hope that I don't sound like a broken record. I see him do this over and over and I see my daughter get sad when he gets drunk too.
But its by his choice that he drinks and I can't do anything about it. I just have to pray that he will make the best decision concerning our daughter, and not have her when he decides to drink.
Several times I had to go pick her up when he decided to not drop her off before he got drunk.
It is so hard to deal with alcoholism. I care for him, and worry for him. But the reason I had to leave is because I couldn't deal with the alcoholism. It just makes him hard to deal with.
He has PTSD from being in vietnam war, and also from childhood abuse from his brother and abandonment from his mother.
I feel for him and hope one day he will decide to sober up.
He is a kind and gentle man, but he just has too much pain to bear, and alcohol is the only way he deals with it.
It is just heartbreaking.
I can only hope that one day he will make it a number one priority to be sober for himself and then look at his daughter and see how much she means to him, and how she cries for him when she is not there.
I hope that I don't sound like a broken record. I see him do this over and over and I see my daughter get sad when he gets drunk too.
But its by his choice that he drinks and I can't do anything about it. I just have to pray that he will make the best decision concerning our daughter, and not have her when he decides to drink.
Several times I had to go pick her up when he decided to not drop her off before he got drunk.
It is so hard to deal with alcoholism. I care for him, and worry for him. But the reason I had to leave is because I couldn't deal with the alcoholism. It just makes him hard to deal with.
He has PTSD from being in vietnam war, and also from childhood abuse from his brother and abandonment from his mother.
I feel for him and hope one day he will decide to sober up.
He is a kind and gentle man, but he just has too much pain to bear, and alcohol is the only way he deals with it.
It is just heartbreaking.
Sympathy and empathy are what kept me in my marriage ot my exh who was an alcoholic too. He had been severely abused by his parents who were both alcoholics. i naievely believed i could love him into sobriety. i ttook many years and much hurt and pain before I realized that there was nothing I could do for him. Only he could save himself. He disappeared after he left us. As far as I know he's still alive and still drinking and sick. I often scan the faces of the homeless for him. I hope and pray that he will get help but I too have had to let go. What is really sad is that he abandoned our daughter. My heart breaks for her but I know that had he stayed her life would not have been good and she would have grown up believing that being abused or being abusive was normal and acceptable.
Please consider taking him back to court for supervised visitation. he is endangering her when he drinks and drives with her in his car. He is endangering her when he gets drunk in front of her because he can't take care of her properly or protect her when he is drunk. As much as I understand your feelingsa of empathy for him, try to stay focused on the well being of your daughter when she is with him. That is your most important priority.
It is a bit complicated about why I don't take him to court, but I will only allow him to visit her at home from now on. I should have been doing that in the first place. But I thought he was serious, well I know at the moment he was serious about it, but the alcohol always calls and he answers every time.
So I am just going to allow him to visit her at home when I am around only.
Thank you guys. Really puts it in perspective when others are telling you things.