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I get anxious when I talk about it.

michiev
michiev
Whenever i talk about my abusers or the past abuse i've been through, I kind of get this floating anxiety.. It never really latches on to me but it just stays there, it makes me nervous and scared.

I know i need to talk about this stuff though or it'll never get better, So how do i talk about all of this without constantly getting anxious?
mildred71
mildred71
Think of your emotional wounds as physical wounds, they need air to breathe and heal. Pain is often not easy to talk about. Once you tell your story, you will see that it does not hold as much power over you as it did before. You are not a victim, you are a survivor.
Best Wishes!!
ajr5679
ajr5679
i have been thinking about that to . sometime just reading a post on here it will get me so i shake i feel like i have needles poking me everywhere. it is not rage it is not sadness. my stomach will go in nuts. . if you find out what it is please let me know.
hockeymom5592
hockeymom5592
I agree with Mildred for sure, you have to talk about this stuff. Emotions we bury just fester and rot, and make us sick.....The anxiety, you have to just sit with it. Kind of observe it. Acknowledge it, that you feel it, and sit through it, let it just bubble up. It will pass, it will go away.

The most effective thing I have found is to practice staying in the present moment. Where there is no abuse, there are none of the things that bring on the anxiety. Staying mindful of what I'm doing right now...this moment.
Tamehau
Tamehau
I so agree with what Midred said and HM! Pain is never easy to talk about! I have found in facing my anxiety and fears and doing Ilenes Index exercise I can bring myself out of it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe you're not ready to process everything yet. Maybe the anxiety is disconnected feelings as they relate to the events. Perhaps more time, and being patience with yourself, will allow your mind and body to connect when you feel safer and when you're ready. The body and mind are very wise - they know when you're ready. That and all the wonderful advice from the ladies here, helps tons.
peggsu2
peggsu2
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) really helps process this. I don't understand the exact science of it, but it re-programs the memories into harmless spots in your brain...
There are self-guided courses, if you can't afford a therapist trained in the practice.
peggsu2
peggsu2
Here's a link to EMDR from you tube;

http://youtu.be/v5IRwMqZSMg
rachelrachel
rachelrachel
my sister's therapist did EMDR, with her when she was dealing with her childhood sexual abuse, and she found it incredibly helpful.