You have my support Wendi, you did the right thing for you. He was the person you married once. but he change and showed his true colors. Sure you miss him, but you miss, the kind one you married not the bully you left behind. it will be stessful but changing the direction your life is going always is. GOOD LUCK with your new life. If you need a friend to talk to i always will.

Thank you, Annie. I sincerely appreciate it. You make a good point, I miss who he was in the beginning - not the person he showed me after.

that is always a very sad thing when people are kind of plastic, and show you who they are not to win your heart but after time their real selves eventually show up . this person is not the person you thought you married but actually was, but he never showed you.

It is a sad thing indeed. You said it perfectly, Annie :(

Stay strong Wendi, I know you can get through the difficult times. Lean on us if you need anything and know you are not alone.

Thank you, KaMac. I needed to see this today.

Congratulations on taking that wonderful step,
You have made it Over the threshold. Yay!!!!!!!!!!! <3
You have closed the door to the abuse and opened the door to
Nurturing,rediscovering you,Self Healing and Self Partnering.
The Universe commends you for this step and wholeheartedly supports
you. <3<3 <3<3 <3<3

The feelings of depression and anxiety are normal as you reassure yourself of this and do realize that abandoning an abusive relationship is exactly
like withdrawal from substance abuse.Your body (mental) goes through
the same emotions),
Hang on and continue to take little steps with self nurturing yourself , loving yourself and self partnering with your self through this process,
As you continue to do these things with the highest form of comittment
to yourself(because you are training yourself to focus more and more
on yourself and less and less on the ex,You will start to feel healing taking
place in your physical, mental and spiritual bodies,

Hang in there and always here as a compassionate ear for listening and support,
Hugs and Positive Light and Energy sent your way

P.S-Also do take time to soothe your mental with relaxation or meditation
videos, Do drink lots of water to stay hydrated and if counseling for yourself
is a thought to further self heal go for it.
It is important to rid oneself of the residue from all past trauma,
Thank you for sharing

SHARING HEALS SHARING HEALS SHARING HEALS <3<3<3<3<3<3<3

Thank you so much Osheana for sharing this, I greatly appreciate it.

Congrats WendiLaine! I know it's not easy, but believe me... it will only get worse if you go back! This is ALWAYS the case! You just need to focus on yourself now and self care self care self care. Think of all the areas of your life that need attention and make lists of all the things you can do for yourself. For instance for me it's music, health/healthy eating, exercise/dance classes, friends, housekeeping, beauty/pampering, wardrobe, learning new things, recovery, I try to do several things from the list every day for example.

You can keep yourself very busy this way, plus you will be getting better and better. If you keep going with the self care, you will start to feel so good eventually that you will never want to go back to that terrible place!! Sending you blessings and healing!!

When you have been with someone else for a long time, and suddenly fnd yourself alone, it can become quite confronting. It takes courage to not only leave the devil you know, but to face the unknown (your true self) as well.

However, you made a great start by leaving. A part of you rather face the unknown, such as being alone, than facing further abuse. This points to a part of yourself that you love. Stay with that part you love. Keep it always at close to your heart. In that way, anything that unsettles you, you can return to that part you love.

That love will nurture you and guide you to what is true about you and around you. You will never feel alone with that love that loves you in your heart.

If you ever want to feel loved, just relax and 'love the Love that loves you'.

Thank you Maryjan and Peat for the encouraging words and advice. I will take those things into consideration and do my best to stay in a positive state of mind. I am grateful for your kind words.