Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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I feel great, I feel like I have broken any connection to my ex that I ever had, yet I still get so mad and frustrated that he has a girlfriend and is online dating but trying to be so nice to me. I don't understand because I really don't care.
I don't know if its because he is still in my house, or what but I have a feelings that span from "Just get the hell out so I don't have to see your fkn face anymore" to "I can't believe (even though I don't care and have no sad emotions over it) that this has happened to me.
I have a boyfriend, he is the most amazing man in the world who respects me for who I am. I have never had that before. I know my ex has a girlfriend and I could care less other then it disgusts me because in the internet history he has visited sites such as "do's and don'ts on first dates" & "how to have great conversations" and I sit here and think "if only he would have put that much effort into the marriage".
With all this being said, I WOULD NEVER EVER get back with my ex, EVER, and I am really happy my boyfriend, but I feel weird at the thought of going about life with someone else. Why?
Is this a normal feeling?
I don't know if its because he is still in my house, or what but I have a feelings that span from "Just get the hell out so I don't have to see your fkn face anymore" to "I can't believe (even though I don't care and have no sad emotions over it) that this has happened to me.
I have a boyfriend, he is the most amazing man in the world who respects me for who I am. I have never had that before. I know my ex has a girlfriend and I could care less other then it disgusts me because in the internet history he has visited sites such as "do's and don'ts on first dates" & "how to have great conversations" and I sit here and think "if only he would have put that much effort into the marriage".
With all this being said, I WOULD NEVER EVER get back with my ex, EVER, and I am really happy my boyfriend, but I feel weird at the thought of going about life with someone else. Why?
Is this a normal feeling?
Everything will be WAY better when he moves out of your house and you don't have to communicate with him anymore. Just hang on, it's almost here. After he is gone, for your own sanity BLOCK HIM!!!!
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I should just add, that stuff he is looking up about dates and great conversations - to me, that's just creepy. If I found out a guy I was seeing was looking up all that stuff, I'd run for the hills, because to me it would say he's trying to be someone he's not, in order to "hook me in". Been there done that, got the scars to prove it. Only real people from now on, no adults who are still trying to learn the basics of acceptable human interaction.
When you are not confronted by all this on a daily basis, it will be easier. That said, it will still be an adjustment. As you say, you've been living your life the same way since you were 16, of course it's going to feel weird to live it differently. Until your "new normal" settles in. Which it won't until after he's gone.
Hmm.... so the grieving process is:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
And we can bounce around them like a pinball. Do any of those seem like what you're going through?