It's sound like an unhealthy relationship for the children as well as yourself. Abusive relationships aren't good especially when children are involved. The relationship can have a negative impact on the children. Have you thought about income based housing? I would never let the man know If I was going to leave because you never know how they may react people are being killed due to abusive relationships. It sounds like he want power and control. I would come up with a plan and not let anyone know and when the time comes make that move. There are domestic violence advocates and shelters that can help you get out. They will protect you and your children its private and know one has to know where you and the kids are they have safe houses and are designed to help you get away and start over. You will know when your really tired. What di you see this relationship looking like 6 months from now? Better or worse? I dont want to tell you to leave you have to make that decision but for the sake of the kids get out. Know your self worth and that you deserve better.

It doesn't get any better. I've been in mine for 15 years almost. I've only really been aware if the abusive nature of it for the past 3 years. It sucks! It drains you physically and mentally. Of course you get angry when he provokes you...it's natural. You can only hold in so much and then you explode. You have to be strong and keep calm, don't give him the reaction that he is seeking. Have you tried to record him? Be careful if you do not to get caught and move the recordings from your phone to another place he cannot find them. The main thing to remember is to stay calm. Don't listen to what he is saying. You are NOT crazy, you are NOT psycho, you are NOT a bitch. You have to remember he is saying these things to get to you...to make you feel like you have no self worth. He wants to wear you down so you have no self esteem left and will stay with him forever.

Find out if there is a domestic violence help center in your area. Most offer free counseling and assistance. They can help you come up with a plan to leave and help you find housing, and even set you up with a court advocate to help you in that fight, someone that is experienced with domestic abuse partners.

No matter how much you may want to believe it can get better, that someday he will realize his mistakes and change....he will not. Narcissists and/or sociopaths will never recognize this and will not change without extensive psychotherapy.

I am sorry you are going through this. I understand completely as I am going through the same thing. My biggest fear about leaving is how he will manipulate our child. But the negative, hostile environment I am putting my child in by staying is not healthy either.

Sounds like my relationship honey.. my now ex is basically making me out to be a liar and mentally unstable, he came round Sunday to pick up some of his belongings and I thought I'd take the opportunity to try talk about our 3 year old as he's had him for a week and I've had no contact at all with our little one. Nope! All I got was ill talk to you about it if you have sex with me, then I'd repeat out of disgust what he'd said to me then he said 'you're disgusting you are, how can you even say that, you're not right'. I was on my hands and knees begging to have my child back, ive never cried so much in my life, he then realised I wasn't going to put out and left.

I've rang him today to talk to our son, and he was basically calling me a vile, nasty piece of poo, I was like you wasn't say that Sunday to get into my pants, he then proceeded to make out I was a liar and that he'd never said that, so now if were together in the same room and it's just us I'm going to record what's being said.

Not going to lie to you babes, it's going to be a rough ride if he's anything like my ex, emotinal torture this last week has been for me. Thanks to him, his whole family think I'm crazy and are backing him up..
It's not going to get better, if anything it will get worse , you nend to get out while the children are still young otherwise they'll grow up believing his behaviour is normal. Don't hesitate to send me a message if you need to rant xx stay safe xx

These:

Phone (850) 425-2749
Hotline: 1-800-500-1119

are the numbers to reach
Florida's women's resources.

Please call either the regular
number or the toll free hotline.
Do it ASAP.

Children who grow up
under the roof of abuse
are impacted negatively
through their entire lives.
Typically, girls end up
living with abusive partners
and boys become abusive
themselves. Sometimes,
it's the other way around
and sometimes they can
be both victims and abusers
at different times with
different people. The
bottom line is that their
lives are generally miserable
and the children they produce
continue on the path of
suffering, in which they
were raised.

Nothing about leaving is
a day at the beach. It's
hard, it sucks and it can
even be dangerous.

The alternative is that
you and your children
will endure increasing
abuse, through the years.
Also, typically, most
emotional abusers
ultimately become
physical, because
they learn, through
years of being
successfully abusive,
that they can push
any and every boundary
without consequences.

If you begin your journey
to freedom, do it as if you
are a prisoner of war in
a P.O.W. camp. You share
NOTHING. Any slip can
end your plan as well
as raise the risk you
live with daily. Also,
do not "push back"
or try to stand up
against the abuse.
This will be both
unsuccessful and
increase your risk.

Sending you hugs
and wishes for
clarity, safety
and healing.