Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi friends.
first of all thank you again for all your advice and help i do really really appreicate it
i have to admit i am finding it hard to cope with all this info....and coming to terms with what i have been living with for 27 years.....i feel like someones died? i feel like i am in thick fog right now and cant find a way out and even if i did i have no idea what i am going to do?
i never thought i would say this but i am actually scared for my future now.
is this normal?
xxx
first of all thank you again for all your advice and help i do really really appreicate it
i have to admit i am finding it hard to cope with all this info....and coming to terms with what i have been living with for 27 years.....i feel like someones died? i feel like i am in thick fog right now and cant find a way out and even if i did i have no idea what i am going to do?
i never thought i would say this but i am actually scared for my future now.
is this normal?
xxx
They still do for me as well, and I have been gone from that hell hole for 3 years!
I love your name on here! You take 1 day at a time! some days 1 hour at a time! stay focused! read! educate! Cry and mourn what isnt going to be, the losses, then turn up the music and celebrate the new chance! allt he new things you can do! and no egg shells, just peace and quiet :)
and control of you!
I love it!
I too, was married for 23 years, 3 children in tow!
Some days, I stop and say: why isnt my husband home yet? its the weirdest thing! but then I think: oooo better her than me anymore! never knowing his mood when he pulled in the driveway, everyone being in fear! omg, I dont miss any of it!
write a daily to do list! one thing at a time! you can do this!!
Your fear of the future is perfectly normal as well. We have all wondered....who am I now that this has happened to me? You are still you, your True Self has simply been forced into the background. That inner child stuff really is true. Our deepest, most authentic self gets stuffed away during abuse because we have an instinctive need to protect it. It is the greatest part of who we are and also our most vulnerable.
The fog will clear. Just as the sun burns away the morning fog to reveal the colors of the world, the light of truth will reveal the colors of your inner world as well.
Hold onto the hands that are here, extended to you in friendship, and hang on tight. We are with you and we can help you find your way out of the chaos.
Something HAS died.
The dream you had,
has died.
That's a death.
But with that death,
the way is cleared
for your abuse-free
life.
Processing takes time.
Take your time.
Integrate what you're learning.
Learn to practice self-care
and to love yourself
and your life.
Yes. This all takes time.
Sending you hugs and healing thoughts.