Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My ex has been dating a person who by his admission had an abusive past. My ex refuses to allow me to meet her or talk to her and he obviously has filled her head with lies about who knows what, all I know if she refuses to speak to me and both are blatantly disrespectful to me in front of my children. I don't have a lot of money to take him back to court to enforce the divorce agreement and he continues to belittle me, etc. about my rights as my children's mother. He without my permission allows her to pick my kids up from school and take them to medical appointments without my knowledge or permission and tells me it is none of my business. The newest is they are now engaged to be married, they have been together less than a year, and he is telling me I have no say in what he and his fiance does with our children.
My kids like her but are not the same kids they were but I can't seem to get them to be open with me. My son was in therapy due to anxiety from my ex leaving my kids alone in the house without telling them he went outside for over 20 min and gave my son hell for wanting to call me. My ex has sabataged therapy and now my son doesn't want to, says he doesn't think it's helping, go anymore.
All I want is to get to know the person who my kids are being left alone with and I want to know we can communicate like adults when it comes to my children. I have even reached out to her extending the peace olive branch and she refuses to talk to me. She ignores me and rolls her eyes at me in front of my kids.
How do I deal with this? Anyone else have this problem? He makes me feel like he and his fiance are trying to turn my kids against me.
My kids like her but are not the same kids they were but I can't seem to get them to be open with me. My son was in therapy due to anxiety from my ex leaving my kids alone in the house without telling them he went outside for over 20 min and gave my son hell for wanting to call me. My ex has sabataged therapy and now my son doesn't want to, says he doesn't think it's helping, go anymore.
All I want is to get to know the person who my kids are being left alone with and I want to know we can communicate like adults when it comes to my children. I have even reached out to her extending the peace olive branch and she refuses to talk to me. She ignores me and rolls her eyes at me in front of my kids.
How do I deal with this? Anyone else have this problem? He makes me feel like he and his fiance are trying to turn my kids against me.
preferably be able to
work together like
reasonable adults.
But in the context of
an abusive ex, that's
probably not possible.
If you haven't already, I urge
you to visit your local women's
center. They may be able to
connect you with legal aid
or lawyers associated with
the women's center, who
might be able to help you.
It's highly unlikely (as you've
already experienced), that
you'll be able to build a
cooperative relationship
with the fiancee, and
even less likely to be
able to co-parent with
your ex, without court-ordered
enforcement.
I would seek professional help.
x
It is so discouraging and even to this day knowing what he is and what he has done it still hard for me to believe ppl can be this way....