Best wishes to you and I hope it goes as smoothly as it can. Remember that there will still be ups and downs, unexpected obstacles and problems, but remember too that what you are moving towards is freedom. You can do this - you have done the hardest part, which is recognising and taking steps to do what you must.

Take care, and keep posting whenever you feel the need or desire. :-)

Deb,

You know we will be here for you and encourage you and lift you up. I do hope that all goes well with you. I cannot tell you what regaining your life back does for you. I can only say that I am loving every moment of it.

Good luck to you girl. You know where we are!

((((((((((hug))))))))

Good luck to you hon and congrats for making the decision to get out. Please know you are always welcomed here. The process of separating and divorcing from an abuser can be quite messy. Hugs, love and light to you and your family...

Keep moving forward. don't take a moment to look back. Stop questioning yourself - to do so is give way to doubt is giving way to stem of roots that our abusers have drilled into our brain- our way of thinking.

I would go to woman shelter. I would obtain am atty. the atty can obtain record from woman shelter - to use against the knock dringing - jerk.
your atty can also get Judge to give you the home to live in w your child. yep he will 1/2 to move out. poor boy,lol, that's his choise & his problem, not yours.
Get your atty to get judge to accept your choise of drop off/ pick up location.
You nor jeck need to get out of thier own car to do this.
I would get a no contact order. I would get an answering unit. screen calls. if he left a message to speak w child. dail his ph # & w/o even saying hello hand the child the reciever. If you answer the ph w/o checking the caller id. Just listen at 1st. ya you will reconize his voice. simply & quuickly say hang on. lay ph down & go get child if he/she wish's to speak w ____.
you could also obtain a cel ph for child & give the ph no to your atty. atty can show the judge that ass has access directly to/w child w/o haveing contact w you.

Once upon a time I had to remember who I was before having attached my wagon to a nut case. I also recalled feeling freedom & looking forward to ea day. I recalled that I had been happy & healthy. Ya during my marriage I- we had good times but they always followed the incressed hell.
During my divorce I realized that 90% of my friends was his friends that he allow me to interact w them.
I knew that it use to be easy for me to meet & chat w people. Aw. I also proved over & over that I still have that nac.
I replaced his blamming friends w my own.

Being that he is being served papers at work ( good for you) I would call police & request a peace office to come to your home so that jerk can get his persoan belongings w/o him physically &/or verbally abuseing you & to prevent him from bashing tv screen & walls...

You have made the right and best choise for yourself and for the over all wellbeing of your child.
Remember you & jerk are treaching your child what is normal & acceptable. abuse & being abuse might repeat itself if you don't leave the jerk & stop the enviroment that you child has - is learning by & in.

The police can find out when he is to be served. they will know when to show up at your place to assist & protect you.

Don't look back. your stronger than you currently realize.

Aw, freedom, health & happiness is attainable.

I am happy you are taking the courageous step to get away from his abuse. You and your children will be fine. Keep posting and stay strong.

Thank you all.
I have tried too long to hang on to him and make it work and hope that in hanging on to him, that I could keep from getting hurt. He wants to be involved with toxic people and surround himself with people who do not make him look so bad. And I want healthy people in my life.
I thought by giving up everything and trying to keep him busy that sooner or later he would figure it out...........wrong.

He would tell me one thing and then do another and then blame for lying about it. Instead of being honest with himself and me to begin with.

and the garbage that he says to me but if I just ask him to respect me or a boundary I set.......then I do not know how I sound and I am taking his rights away.....blah.blah blah........it is never about what does it is always me that is acting bad or my depression or anxiety..............I was so depressed anxious because of all of the inner turmoil and dealing with him and focusing on him and what is going to do is being honest and blah.blah.blah.
well now I am starting to feel good about myself again.
while I do not want this to be this way, I am glad to have reclaimed part of my self respect back.

Thank you for all of your support.
((((HUGSS)))

D