Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hello... i have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now but there was nothing abusive in our relationship for almost year and a half... this problem has started recently... i m becoming more and more aggressive with my girlfriend and have been hitting her whenever i m getting pissed off at her... after what i do i get depressed of thinking what i have done and i won't be able to take it back... i dont want to lose her! She is my whole world... and i cant afford to lose her... plzz i am very depressed and ashamed of myself... plz help me
is that you tell us that
you're depressed and
ashamed. GOOD.
Let that motivate you
to start doing the
right thing.
So ---- here's the help
you asked for:
Your profile says that
you're 17, which means
that, right now, if the
police were to become
involved, you'd be
sentenced as a juvenile.
In a year or less, that
status changes and
you'd be punished
for D.V. BATTERY.
The first thing you
need to do is go
NO CONTACT from
this relationship or
any other.
The second thing is
that you need to
GET HELP
(and I'm not talking
"anger management
classes").
You need to begin
working indefinitely,
with a specially trained
therapist whose focus
is helping people rewire
their inner self to be able
to repair the serious
damage that's compelled
them to physically and
emotionally hurt other people.
Doing this requires you
to find the most qualified
therapist in that area and
to begin and continue
working with that counselor
for as long as it takes for
the therapy to be effective.
Since you're still
young, the chance
of therapy being
successful is greater
than if you ignore
this advice and go
on doing what
you're doing.
Without intervention,
in a few years, you'll
have seriously injured
(or killed), someone
you say you love.
She'll be maimed
or crippled (or dead)
and you'll be in prison.
STOP HAVING RELATIONSHIPS
until you've successfully
turned this situation around.
And whatever you do,
don't get anyone pregnant.
Sorry if this response
sounds harsh. You
were brave to come
and post here, saying
you want help.
If this person (is she
underage, also?), is
really your "whole
world," then that's
all the more reason
to go NO CONTACT
until YOU"RE not
the most serious
threat of DANGER
and INJURY in her life!
Finally ----- no one
can help you, but YOU.
YOU have to do the
work. YOU have to
do whatever it takes
to get healthy enough
to participate in relationship
with another human being.
Until then, you should
think of yourself as a
loaded pistol or a
live grenade. You
are NOT SAFE
to be around.
GET
PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!