Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Emotional abuse is hard to get over. My ex screwed my head up and I'm not letting him do this to me anymore! One minute he loves me , the next he is calling me names. Then he is yelling at me and taking stuff out on me. Its just a cycle that has to end. He is giving me silent treatment right now and he does this to me all the time then calls like nothing happened. I miss him, why I don't know? I'm done though. I just need help getting past this so I can move on. I feel so lost right now and messed up. I just need advice on how to move on. How do I trust again. How did I let this man do this to me?
There three extremely important things you need to do to be able to move on.
1. Practice extreme self care. Love & trust yourself above all others (this will more than likely take some therapy). Do whatever it takes to take good care of you.
2. Go TOTAL NO CONTACT immediately. This means block him from everything including but not limited to social media, email, phones - everything. Also go NO CONTACT with anyone who is friends/related to him.
3. Get into therapy with a QUALIFIED therapist who has additional training in recovery from abuse/trauma over and above what they got in school and that is required for their license.
Without doing those things, it will be very difficult to move on.
~healing hugs~
I think it's about taking one step at a time and removing yourself from toxic environment.
When my relationship was over I was very exhausted, I felt like my brain was washed because of the behaviors you describe - hot and cold and no stability.
At some point you are so into it and it is so intense that you let this happen. Don't blame yourself. Now you are aware and you can stop the abuse from reoccurring.