Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
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Understand the person. There are different variations of narcissism, ranging from the simply selfish and irritating to the dangerous and profoundly sick.
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Assess the suspected narcissist's behavior based on certain well-defined criteria. They will put their needs before yours, expect you to satisfy all their needs and constantly manipulate you to attain their own ends.
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Steer clear of this person. The best way to handle a narcissist is to get as far away as possible from them. Barring that, you need to realize that he will only be happy if he gets his way. If you have to come into contact with a narcissist, vis--vis marriage, friendship or work, you should always make everything about them. Nothing else will suit them.
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Stand up and walk fast. Most people who have had the misfortune of living or working with a narcissist will tell you that someone with full-blown narcissistic personality disorder cannot be helped or dealt with effectively because they will not change. You can try to cope with them, but you will never win. A narcissist's delusions of grandeur make him or her believe they are always right.
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Cut them off. Narcissists require a steady supply of positive feedback and attention. The only people they include in their lives are the ones who provide this "mirroring" of themselves. To get them to leave you alone, you should ignore them. Avoid their phone calls. Change your phone number. Without feedback and attention, narcissists are weak and afraid and will seek a new source of supply.
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Have no contact with the narcissist. Fierce adherence to the "no contact" rule will provide you with security and a return to sanity. It will force the narcissist to seek greener pastures.
Understand the person. There are different variations of narcissism, ranging from the simply selfish and irritating to the dangerous and profoundly sick.
Step
2
Assess the suspected narcissist's behavior based on certain well-defined criteria. They will put their needs before yours, expect you to satisfy all their needs and constantly manipulate you to attain their own ends.
Step
3
Steer clear of this person. The best way to handle a narcissist is to get as far away as possible from them. Barring that, you need to realize that he will only be happy if he gets his way. If you have to come into contact with a narcissist, vis--vis marriage, friendship or work, you should always make everything about them. Nothing else will suit them.
Step
4
Stand up and walk fast. Most people who have had the misfortune of living or working with a narcissist will tell you that someone with full-blown narcissistic personality disorder cannot be helped or dealt with effectively because they will not change. You can try to cope with them, but you will never win. A narcissist's delusions of grandeur make him or her believe they are always right.
Step
5
Cut them off. Narcissists require a steady supply of positive feedback and attention. The only people they include in their lives are the ones who provide this "mirroring" of themselves. To get them to leave you alone, you should ignore them. Avoid their phone calls. Change your phone number. Without feedback and attention, narcissists are weak and afraid and will seek a new source of supply.
Step
6
Have no contact with the narcissist. Fierce adherence to the "no contact" rule will provide you with security and a return to sanity. It will force the narcissist to seek greener pastures.
Really interesting post. Thanks.
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If not, could you tell us where you found it?
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Much obliged DeeDee. Thanks for the list and also the location.
I got really tired of trying to "work her" as to speak. Meaning trying to steer things and predict things before they happend, so as to have peace in my life, or some dignity. She wants me to have no dignity and that is the way it should be. I am to listen and obey or my life will be miserable. There is no in between. She doesn't like to acknowledge that I am her sister and every problem arising is my fault. It is exhausting. She'll create problems for me. You can't really work it out either.
Problem is my mother is one too, and so now I have no family except my husband and children. I would say that is enough, except my marriage is not the most fullfilling, so I'm pretty much alone, so I think. I may have peace of mind and a calm life in regards to them, but I also have no family to speak of now. Because I don't talk to them, ppl just think I'm a quack for not coping with them or dealing with my problems or I'm wierd for alienating myself from them.
There is no peace.
Thanks again though for this article, it does have narcicism behaviour, but not all of it.