Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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My husband continues to lie to me about small things but lately I caught him on the internet looking at gay porn. This summer, I found out that he had been writing to a man that he met on craigslist under the men seeking men site. He told me that the sites that I found in the history must have been left over from that but he has been very religious about doing disk cleanups.?????
The title of your thread is:
How much to put up with?
Well ----- that's a personal call.
You also wrote:
My husband continues to lie to me about small things but lately. . . .
Well ---- hmmmm ----- let's see. . . .
My husband continues to lie to me. . . . . . .
How many lies are too many lies?
Three? Four? Ten? Twenty? Fifty? Six dozen? Seven hundred?
And ---- oh by the way ----- what is his actual orientation?
If it's not monogamously heterosexual (since that's who he told you he was and that's the profile of the person you took vows with at the alter), you might want to clarify any question that seem to be popping up.
How much to put up with?
My limit is three incidents of disrespect ----- four ----- if I'm feeling particularly generous. How many YOU will put up with, you'll have to decide for yourself.
it sounds like your husband may have a sex addiction. my husband has a sex addiction. he has been in S.A. (sex-a-holics anonymous) for 3 years after cheating on me before we were married. he was very addicted to pornography including male pornography and he even got together with men throughout his whole late-teens and adult life (as well as women). he was very ashamed of it. he often felt suicidal about it. he felt stuck and didnt know what to do. the men in S.A. have been really awesome and helpful to him. he goes to about 2-4 meetings per week and doesnt act out anymore. there is a huge underground world where "straight" men hook up. they go to specific parks, and public restrooms etc. my husband says it is really sad... and most of the men dont want to be there, but are addicted. you may want to contact S.A and see what you can do. some guys dont know that there is help out there, and are relieved to find that there is somewhere to turn. here is the url to the main site..
http://www.sa.org/index.php
please contact me any time.. i know what you are going through
-m
If he stood with me at the alter in front of community and creator, a woman would not be okay with me, either. He did, after all, take vows of commitment and monogamy.
Anything short of what he promised you, is a violation of the contract you both signed. I don't care if the outside "interest" is male, female, alcohol, prescription drug, street drug, gambling, spending, work, play ------ whatever. If I'm not at the top of the list, that's a violation of the contract ----- null and void!
Best of fortune to you, going forward.
By the time I found out about his internet activities, I was already done with him in my head and heart.
Enough is enough.
You don't have to put up with any more.
I was a little different in that I felt better that he was finally facing his sexuality and that I simply did not have the right equipment for him.
OR
come to an agreement that he will finacially support you and you both will become room mates and continue to remain married.
If a man stays out of my rm and agress to pay for me having my hair & nails done and provideing me with what ever I want when ever I want something. Of couse he would not only half to buy me a corvette but to put the title soly in my name. I wouldn't care if he moved his - whatever into his own bd rm as long as I have dibs on his bank acct.
But that's just me.
The media is manipulating minds - that being w same gender is normal and being w oppset gender is abnormal.
the media is also protraying fat people as being normal so that public won't turn on them being that the 90tys produced overwelming number of unhealthy fatty's that's a burdom on fanacial health system.
Oh will, hit him in his bill fold.
it's so common for guys to brain F men into turning ___ and for men to hide behind woman - family. Darn mid life thingy,lol.
PSS before poo hits the fan, go shopping on his credit card :)