Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So a month ago, my abusive ex who was cheating on me decided he wants to be single after I caught him texting his exes.. he's been bad mouthing me that I'm overly dramatic and blowing things out of proportion but never mind all that.. here's the real issue:
few days ago, his friend (lets call him Y)'s girlfriend (whom I've never met before) rings my doorbell at 7 am. Stupidly thinking she might just be lost and has the wrong apartment, I open the door and she confronts me: I'm Y's girlfriend where is he I know he's in your apartment. I told her I had not seen or spoken to her boyfriend in months and have no idea. She then demanded (threatening with violence) I call my ex as she's sure he's with my ex. I told her I would oblige as long as she leaves me alone and keeps me out of her problems. Now Y (a schizophrenic meth / pills addict) has it in his head that I'm somehow conspiring with his gf, and that one of the girls my ex cheated on me with is his gf.. when he couldn't get a hold of me by phone, he showed up at my apartment, and broke my doorbell, followed by repeated bashing and kicking my door and shouting in the hallway that he was planning on killing me, his gf, and my ex and that he has a tazer gun etc.. It took the cops 45 MINUTES to show up.. I don't feel safe even though I'm 99% sure he wont come after me again.. how do I get rid of that fear?
few days ago, his friend (lets call him Y)'s girlfriend (whom I've never met before) rings my doorbell at 7 am. Stupidly thinking she might just be lost and has the wrong apartment, I open the door and she confronts me: I'm Y's girlfriend where is he I know he's in your apartment. I told her I had not seen or spoken to her boyfriend in months and have no idea. She then demanded (threatening with violence) I call my ex as she's sure he's with my ex. I told her I would oblige as long as she leaves me alone and keeps me out of her problems. Now Y (a schizophrenic meth / pills addict) has it in his head that I'm somehow conspiring with his gf, and that one of the girls my ex cheated on me with is his gf.. when he couldn't get a hold of me by phone, he showed up at my apartment, and broke my doorbell, followed by repeated bashing and kicking my door and shouting in the hallway that he was planning on killing me, his gf, and my ex and that he has a tazer gun etc.. It took the cops 45 MINUTES to show up.. I don't feel safe even though I'm 99% sure he wont come after me again.. how do I get rid of that fear?
1. Is to view them as undisciplined children. It may take away some of the fear.
2. Hang around people you trust as much as possible/ Sleep someplace else for a short while.
Thank god your boyfriend left with three good reasons not to miss him - the dramatic / chaotic friends, the cheating and the smearing.