To preface my question, I was adopted at birth, closed adoption, to a financially well off couple in their 40s, who already had a daughter and needed to adopt bc my mother could not conceive another child and thought that one more child would complete their family. After bankruptcy of a business and personal belongings at age six I learned my parents relationship was deeply flawed. My father was an abusive, only to +y mother, alcoholic gambling drug addict, functional though, and my mother eventually left him ten years later. My question, or concern is, my mother all my life has ingrained into me the importance of looks and status over any internal value in people and especially myself. I never tookto these beliefs as my sister did and moved out when i was 17. I had no help from anyone ever, and am now temporarily back at my moms. It's just as it was when i was a teenager, but worse. My therapist told me since she no longer had my father to belittle and attack she transfered that onto me. Although i work all the time to save enpugh to move back out, she will go out of her way to tell me how stupid and fat i am. How I'm jealous of my bulemic sisters life... not true... and how i will never find a husband or make anything of myself bc I'm fat. Combined with emotional abuse from my boyfriend of three years I feel I'm about to snap. I've tried numerous ways to tell her the way she speaks to me is unacceptable and its like shes deaf to anyone else's words but her own. My sister refuses to get involved which I understand but find selfish. Anyone have any thoughts/similar experiences. I just want to cry all day...