Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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Last night was one of the worst nights with my husband in a long time. I will try to make it short. He went to bed early but wanted me to wake him up at a certain time so he could watch something on TV. I told him not to get mad at me when I did, and he said he wouldn't. He is always grumpy when he wakes up.
Well, I woke him up earlier because I was tired and my son had to go to bed, so I was worried I would fall asleep. However, when I wen to wake him up, I scared him and he flipped out.
Totally flipped out on me. The rage was unbearable. He told me I scared him and asked why I woke him up so early, and when I tried to explain, he did not want to hear it. He was horrible the rest of the night and I finally got some sleep.
I am so worried about what today will bring. I need to go to work and he is picking our son up from school since he is not working today. I am mortified at what his mood will be.
I think he has stopped taking his Xanax because he had to take a drug test for work. He has a prescription, but he does not want them knowing he is taking it. Not sure if he is also trying to stop. He needs the medication, as he is completely unpredictable in his behavior. I almost think he is bi-polar or he has just messed up his head so much with drugs and alcohol (which he really does not do anymore).
I don't know what to do. Tomorrow is my birthday, so I am sure he will be calm by then, but who knows with him. I am sick to my stomach from anxiety.
Thanks for listening to me vent.
Well, I woke him up earlier because I was tired and my son had to go to bed, so I was worried I would fall asleep. However, when I wen to wake him up, I scared him and he flipped out.
Totally flipped out on me. The rage was unbearable. He told me I scared him and asked why I woke him up so early, and when I tried to explain, he did not want to hear it. He was horrible the rest of the night and I finally got some sleep.
I am so worried about what today will bring. I need to go to work and he is picking our son up from school since he is not working today. I am mortified at what his mood will be.
I think he has stopped taking his Xanax because he had to take a drug test for work. He has a prescription, but he does not want them knowing he is taking it. Not sure if he is also trying to stop. He needs the medication, as he is completely unpredictable in his behavior. I almost think he is bi-polar or he has just messed up his head so much with drugs and alcohol (which he really does not do anymore).
I don't know what to do. Tomorrow is my birthday, so I am sure he will be calm by then, but who knows with him. I am sick to my stomach from anxiety.
Thanks for listening to me vent.
I wish you as happy a birthday as possible. *have another HUG!!* If you can have something like "a night with the girls," I highly recommend it. Some air, some space, and a way to celebrate something that should be fun.
Sending you wishes for a peaceful birthday.
Hugs and healing thoughts.
Give yourself a good birthday. Treat yourself to lunch or some flowers or a walk in the park. Spend some special time with your son. Don't depend on him, or you might be disappointed.
Happy Happy Birthday to you!!! Enjoy:)
I also agree with telling him to use an alarm next time.
Regarding your post, besides the obvious behavior that you pointed out, if he is taking Xanax regularly and stops cold turkey for this drug test, he is putting himself to some degree through what is called "benzodiazepine withdrawal." It's a very dangerous thing to do for many reasons:
http://www.bcnc.org.uk/symptoms.html
Of particular note:
"Aggressive behaviour, Agitation, Hyperactivity, hysterical or inappropiate laughter, Irrational rage, Irritability, obsessive behaviour"
"Delirium, confusion, psychosis, disorientation, hallucinations (auditory, tactile, visual), Dysphoria (inability to feel pleasure or happiness), Excitability, Paranoia"
People abruptly stopping these medications can also have seizures.
I, too have an H that takes prescribed medications. There have been several times when he decides to quit taking his for various reasons and it's always been a very very ugly situation. I have told him that if he ever stops a particular medication again, I will have no qualms about leaving and going somewhere else. It's not fair to you to have to deal with that on top of everything else.