Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Here's the story. My husband has lost 2 wedding rings over the course of our marraige. I purchased the first one. After he lost it, I bought a new one for him. He lost that, and I refused to buy a third replacement. This year, in June, he decided that he wanted a ring because he wanted to send the message to "other people" that he was married and he was tired of some of the advances of others. So, we went to the jewelry store and he picked out and paid for a ring. This was June 2009. I haven't seen him wear this ring in about a week or two, nor have I seen it in the usual place on his dresser. (I even looked in his "jewelry box" think and didn't see it there). Should I confront him on it? He's given me the silent treatement/minimal talking treatment for several weeks now. I don't really know why it matters to me other than this ring was the most expensive one yet. Thoughts?
my faux pas and told me about his wife and 3 children, I was honorable and told him to wear his wedding ring. that was that.
Not to stir up strife with you and your love, maybe he loves biking or
athletics, or just can't get used to wearing the ring, best bet is to give him a warm comfortable atmosphere to talk about the ring, if you yell and yell he may associate the yelling with the ring.
I wish the very best to you and I hope that you both have
a very happy marriage and the best life possible.
Love, Mil.
He paid for ring #3, but he got it because he wanted to. I wasn't going to buy another one -- I'd already purchased 2, and felt that the state of our marraige was not good so didn't want to waste any more money.
The silent treatment: related to the business trip I went on last week. He wanted me to cancel the trip, and tell my employer that I wasn't going. I refused to do so and stood my ground. He's convinced that I'm having an affair with the male coworker who also went on the trip. Had there been a third person there, he may have felt more comfortable. But seriously, even if my boss or anyone else DID go, what is there to stop us from getting together late at night? Nothing! Regardless, I am NOT having an affair or anything resembling such with this guy. I don't even know the room number he was staying in, other than it was 2 floors below me and on the complete opposite end of the hotel.
2 nights ago, I asked him why he wouldn't speak with me. He said "I don't have anything nice to say." and walked away. Nice co-dependent me goes into the next room and asked him what he wanted. He said, "I don't want to be with someone who brings out the worst in me." hmmm.... (I'm meeting with a divorce atty today)
I notice you are in a support group for infidelity. Was he unfaithful to you?
I'm thinking he won't put the ring on because he's still pouting about your business trip. I am sorry he doesn't support you...that really sucks.
I just got back from the meeting with the attorney. She recommends trying mediation before pursuing a divorce attorney. I have to figure out how to have this conversation as well and follow through! :(