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Wolf's Daily Howl
New Years Day has come and gone, along with the Monday that became the official paid-day-off, as well. Were into the first week, and the first week is already flying by.
The morning TV magazine programs have all had features on how to keep resolutions, how to build your will power, how to reach your goals, how to change your habits. . . . and on and on.
Same as diets, New Years resolutions seldom work.
We know what we hope to accomplish. We know what we want to do. We know what we envision and what wed like to achieve.
And then we dont.
Because promises are easy and talk is cheap. Life is hard.
How do I know?
I know.
I envision, I try to change habits, I vow to do better juggling.
Some changes Ive achieved. Theyve been big changes, real doozies.
Ive left abusers. I bested alcohol. I vanquished an addiction to York Peppermint patties.
But other habits are tough and other changes are even harder. Sometimes, even though theyre hard, even though Ive already failed a dozen times, I hold the vision of eventually changing the old habits and implementing new ones. I hold the hope of eventually getting there despite the misses because. . . . . .
thereve been times Ive been able to do that. Thereve been times, despite years of having missed the mark and kicking myself and feeling badly, despite all that. . . . . finally. . . . . I got there. I made it. I did it. I triumphed in the face of multiple set-backs and disappointments.
Ive spent time thinking about how I eventually got to that place . . . . when I did.
Here are some of my thoughts:
Any moment of our life will eventually fall into one of the following categories:
Forgettable
Regrettable
or Gratifying
The category that it falls into will largely be determined by how much ownership we take of that moment. I said largely because there are other factors. Its not always solely, about what we want or what we do. But while its not wholly and solely our decision, its primarily our decision.
Speaking for myself, the times I find myself to be most effective in arriving at a pile of moments that are gratifying, rather than forgettable or regrettable, were moments that I made a conscious, determined effort at living according to my vision. This didnt enable me to make every single moment gratifying. But its helped me often to make many moments accrue in the category of satisfaction, contentment and peace. . . sometimes even joy.
Thats how Ive decided to move myself closer to the actualization of my mission, my visions, my consciously chosen decisions. Im focusing on filling the category of gratifying. Heres to 2012. Sending you all thoughts and wishes, (prayers, if they apply), for decisions that get your moments to gratifying.
Wolf's Daily Howl
New Years Day has come and gone, along with the Monday that became the official paid-day-off, as well. Were into the first week, and the first week is already flying by.
The morning TV magazine programs have all had features on how to keep resolutions, how to build your will power, how to reach your goals, how to change your habits. . . . and on and on.
Same as diets, New Years resolutions seldom work.
We know what we hope to accomplish. We know what we want to do. We know what we envision and what wed like to achieve.
And then we dont.
Because promises are easy and talk is cheap. Life is hard.
How do I know?
I know.
I envision, I try to change habits, I vow to do better juggling.
Some changes Ive achieved. Theyve been big changes, real doozies.
Ive left abusers. I bested alcohol. I vanquished an addiction to York Peppermint patties.
But other habits are tough and other changes are even harder. Sometimes, even though theyre hard, even though Ive already failed a dozen times, I hold the vision of eventually changing the old habits and implementing new ones. I hold the hope of eventually getting there despite the misses because. . . . . .
thereve been times Ive been able to do that. Thereve been times, despite years of having missed the mark and kicking myself and feeling badly, despite all that. . . . . finally. . . . . I got there. I made it. I did it. I triumphed in the face of multiple set-backs and disappointments.
Ive spent time thinking about how I eventually got to that place . . . . when I did.
Here are some of my thoughts:
Any moment of our life will eventually fall into one of the following categories:
Forgettable
Regrettable
or Gratifying
The category that it falls into will largely be determined by how much ownership we take of that moment. I said largely because there are other factors. Its not always solely, about what we want or what we do. But while its not wholly and solely our decision, its primarily our decision.
Speaking for myself, the times I find myself to be most effective in arriving at a pile of moments that are gratifying, rather than forgettable or regrettable, were moments that I made a conscious, determined effort at living according to my vision. This didnt enable me to make every single moment gratifying. But its helped me often to make many moments accrue in the category of satisfaction, contentment and peace. . . sometimes even joy.
Thats how Ive decided to move myself closer to the actualization of my mission, my visions, my consciously chosen decisions. Im focusing on filling the category of gratifying. Heres to 2012. Sending you all thoughts and wishes, (prayers, if they apply), for decisions that get your moments to gratifying.
I have a wine gum habit that needs some kicking.
but I think I may keep it around for another year. I need it.
I don't really do resolutions.
I like this:
"Im focusing on filling the category of gratifying."
this year, I plan on moving my body a bit more. going out more. taking my kids to more places (not expensive places, just 'places' a walk in the park, going to a friends's house). I plan on listening more. breathing more. taking more hot bubble baths. I plan on wearing more jewelery.I plan on thinking more good thoughts.
Rachel I love this. And it is all very doable not something that requires the type of commitment that would be dreaded.
An example, like in my case I can't seen to commit to getting a new gym membership and then getting motivated to get in top shape like I was a few years back. first I can't afford it and second I'm not motivated to do something that doesn't bring me pleasure or something that doesn't keep my interest. So maybe more hikes and bike rides and walks are in order.
Here's to doing more pleasurable things, thinking pleasurable thoughts, being around pleasant people, and enjoying all of the little wonderful things in each day of this new year. And here's to accepting with peace where we have been and where we are now and looking forward to the future.