Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My Father's health is so bad. He just about a week ago had a stint put in his heart.He has had this before,and open heart 2 years ago.His BP is out of control and his diabetes is bad also.Well my Mom has a lot of health issues herself and has Bipolar disorder too.She is very mean to her family most especially my Dad.Dad has always been the fixer in the family.He tries so hard to satisfy everyone.But it has taken it's toll on him.He doesn't seem to be doing well now and he is suppose to be avoiding stress, resting, and working on his health.But my Mom was so worried when he found out about the surgery,we didn't know if he would have open heart again we where worried.But no, and since Dad came home from the hospital she has been mean and verbally abusive to him.I saw him on Monday and he looked terrible.Mom was raging at him and he was getting upset with her for she says terrible things in a rage.As we are there and she is belittling him to us when we are around them.His face got red and then my daughter and left and he just walked a very short distance with us to the car and he went from the red face to very pale.Don't think this is good for him.So now it has been 3 days that she is raging and it kills me to see all the termoil.But Mom has gotten away with this behaviour for so long she thinks she is being rational.Dad has always tried to fix everything for her and do what ever to make peace for Mom. I think it has almost had a very negative affect on her acting out.we see that all this stress is killing Dad but We do not know what to do!!Dad is too weak to take care of himself and Mom is so mean to him and I want to help him but it will only make her furious.Anyone have ANY advise help me decide how I can help them both.Thanks everyone
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You have to do what you can live with, if you don't help your dad, I think you may have a lot of guilt for a long time. Maybe you can talk to your mother's dr and get her on some meds that will calm her.
I'm sorry for all this....And that I don't have any good answers. Hopefully more people will come on and be able to offer you some more ideas.
1-800-759-2963
It's for the Area Agency on Aging.
I'm not sure it's the exact one you
need, but if it's not, they'll give you
the right one. They have a LOT of
very valuable connections to
services and support.
Please give them a call.
It might help.