Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hello everyone,
I haven't been on here for awhile, and it's becuase I feel so guilty, I weakened and went back to my abuser.
I love him, I want it to work out so bad.
I know it's not the best idea, even dangerous for me. I keep seeing our last episode in the woods and I think to myself what are you doing?
But in the same thoughts I am happy to be back with him. I hope this doesn't make me out to be fake, or anything.
I Just have this sense of hope and a prayer that all will work out for us. I sometimes feel like I shouldn't be on here because of how many times I have went back to my abuser.
Believe me I went for several weeks with no contact with him and I was feeling ok.
I was beginning to move forward, but he text me and in one swoop, I am back in his arms.
I was even beginning to smile and laugh, and I still yet am because of the honeymoon syndrome, but yet I know it will come to an end soon and I wil be on here again. I just want to come and let you guys know I am doing ok, and will keep checking in.
For now I am going to give this my all. I pray and hope that it all turns out for the better. I will check in weekly and let you guys know how things are going. If things turn out for the worse, I will check in sooner.
I have my children, and my family for support and I am thankful for that.
But I am so thankful for all of your support and all of your advise, and encouragement.
I am going to give him one week at a time, If things don't steadily improve for us if there is even a needle of evidence that things are not improving, than I will definately turn again and walk away.
So prayers please. Thank you. luv n ((hugs)) I will post again on 1/24
I haven't been on here for awhile, and it's becuase I feel so guilty, I weakened and went back to my abuser.
I love him, I want it to work out so bad.
I know it's not the best idea, even dangerous for me. I keep seeing our last episode in the woods and I think to myself what are you doing?
But in the same thoughts I am happy to be back with him. I hope this doesn't make me out to be fake, or anything.
I Just have this sense of hope and a prayer that all will work out for us. I sometimes feel like I shouldn't be on here because of how many times I have went back to my abuser.
Believe me I went for several weeks with no contact with him and I was feeling ok.
I was beginning to move forward, but he text me and in one swoop, I am back in his arms.
I was even beginning to smile and laugh, and I still yet am because of the honeymoon syndrome, but yet I know it will come to an end soon and I wil be on here again. I just want to come and let you guys know I am doing ok, and will keep checking in.
For now I am going to give this my all. I pray and hope that it all turns out for the better. I will check in weekly and let you guys know how things are going. If things turn out for the worse, I will check in sooner.
I have my children, and my family for support and I am thankful for that.
But I am so thankful for all of your support and all of your advise, and encouragement.
I am going to give him one week at a time, If things don't steadily improve for us if there is even a needle of evidence that things are not improving, than I will definately turn again and walk away.
So prayers please. Thank you. luv n ((hugs)) I will post again on 1/24
best thoughts
and prayers.
Breaking attachments,
ESPECIALLY
abusive attachments
is as hard as
breaking any other
biochemically
addictive behavior.
You TOTALLY
belong here.
Further more, you
don't sound "lost."
You sound hopeful.
The problem is
abusers don't
stop abusing.
Be careful. Be alert.
Be ready to take action.
(Statistics show that
the average survivor
has made attempts
to break away
MANY TIMES
before the time
that they're successful.)
Don't feel anything
negative. Going
back, out of hope
that the dream of
healthy love will prevail,
is a typcial thing that
many of us have done.
Just LOVE YOURSELF
be true to YOURSELF.
Hugs and healing prayers.
TAKE GOOD CARE!!!!!!!!
Don't worry, you are NOT fake.
"I sometimes feel like I shouldn't be on here because of how many times I have went back to my abuser."
Yes, you do deserve to be on here!
I, too, went back and forth many times before leaving. Whenever I talked to him after a prolonged absence, even if it was about something small like belongings we'd left with each other, he would always find some guilt trip or (usually empty) threat with which to hook me back in, and before I knew it I had to plan a way to leave again.
DO be extra cautious as you're watching to see how this goes, not only for his behavior, but in watching your own thoughts too. When I was with my abuser, he slowly pulled me into a pattern of thoughts that I later realized were ludicrous, but at the time they seemed sensible. So while you're still fresh from being away from him, you could try writing a journal entry describing everything you feel about the situation and the pros and cons you weighed when deciding to come back to him. Then in a few weeks (if you're still with him), go back and read it and see if there's anything you've changed your mind on, and whether that change of mind makes sense. If you see anything that makes you wonder if it isn't really your abuser's thoughts and not your own, it may be time to leave before you get pulled in further. (This is just my suggestion, based on the things that I was facing in my situation. Yours might feel a lot different, so do this only if it makes sense to you.)
I know what you want, and we ALL wanted our abusers to change, but it RARELY HAPPENS, and life is short, and years are lost...
If he does anything to you again, don't walk, but RUN AND DON'T GO BACK!