Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
But it's healthy to basically not think of him at all. And my life is getting back on track with me following my dreams, which *WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED* had he gotten his way. He spent the better part of 3 years bending my mind and life to his will, but in the end he DIDN'T get what he wanted (which was me, married to him, with some horrible babies in tow living in a house in a white picket fence in the suburbs) so.... there. :-)
Abusers are all about control. Controlling us to get the outcome that THEY want. Just by leaving, we have taken the control over our lives into our OWN hands. So f*ck them; we win and they lose.