Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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Meg08 02/12/2009

He told me that he acts the way he does not only because of how he grew up but because of the people he has met. He says everyone he has met has been fake and everyone has hurt him somehow. But what about what he has done?! He uses the things other people have done as an excuse for all the bad things he has done. His excuse for cheating on me was because I lied to him in the beginning. Thats not an excuse to me! But I can't ever defend myself to him because he always finds a way to override me. He has an explaination for EVERYTHING! But his excuses are always ok, but if I was to use that excuse I would be a stupid lying hoe or something. i dont get it

hockeymom5592 02/12/2009

Abusers are always blaming someone else for everything that ever goes wrong in their lives. Everything will always be your fault. And you are not allowed to feel anything...except what he wants you to. You can't win with an abuser. All you can do is leave.

Sorry you have to deal with this. Hugs.

IleneW 02/12/2009

It is more the rule than the exception, that an abuser had hurtful experiences, usually when they were very young.

That does not give them permission to abuse.

Hockeymom is right. You will never win, against an abuser. The best you can do is LEAVE.

i.w.

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