Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Lord have mercy! Even at church! I went this morning and I didn't know until I came out that he was there, I didn't see him but I saw his car and then when I got home I saw a text on my cell saying "You wana go to breakfast?" What the hell?
I am pretending he is not there even if I see him at Church or whatever. No Contact! Maybe sooner or later he will get it? It would be so much easier if he just stayed away. I don't feel tempted right now though. I hope I can keep this mentality. I think of my son and how angry he is about the whole thing. If I can't do it for myself I have to do it for my son.
I hope I can do this!
I am pretending he is not there even if I see him at Church or whatever. No Contact! Maybe sooner or later he will get it? It would be so much easier if he just stayed away. I don't feel tempted right now though. I hope I can keep this mentality. I think of my son and how angry he is about the whole thing. If I can't do it for myself I have to do it for my son.
I hope I can do this!
It may be time to take copies of all his texts and records of his unwanted attempts to contact you to your local police and ask about pressing charges under your local/state stalking laws. It also may be time to get an restraining order against him.
You can go to your local women's shelter and ask them to help you with this process. They should be able to put you in touch w/an attorney who can notify the ex that if he doesn't stop bothering/stalking you that it will become a police matter.
I wish you the best of luck, I KNOW you can do this, you are doing terrific so far.
In addition to MTC great advice, maybe for your evidence collection sneak a picture of him in his car waiting for you to come out or him just stalking you.
((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
I had no desire to answer his text today. I think of things I want to say but I don't do it. Mostly justifying why I won't be with him anymore but I know not to start responding. He doesn't hear what I say and it has never changed anything.