Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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tonyaabernathy 04/23/2011

My son came home from college last night and he seemed so happy.He was so talkative which was so sweet to me because he is normally so quite.Then this morning by 8:00 my husband is cursing my son!!! I hate him, and I'm just coming to the realization that this man is treating my boys the same way he does me!I have always sort of thought I was protecting the kids from him by taking it myself and stepping in when I see him get rough with them, but it has all been to no avail,Im realizing that my protecting them as I have tried has not worked.Oh Lord help! I have a daughter too who is only 11 years old and husband is an alcoholic too.So when we have been separated before I worry like crazy for her safety with him!Did the same with the boys that is why I stayed I thought to keep them safe from him and his rage but no I am wrong!!!Also my problem with this man is he is a successful man and comes across to everyone as a good Father ,provider,successful,fun,great guy!!!!!When we went through divorce proceedings I looked like the bad person,because that was what he wanted to portray me as,as if he is my victim.His point of view is I'm lazy and worthless!He knows how to work everyone to his advantage, it is never a good thing to be on his bad side .Help, me to deal with this craziness!I've got to do something, I don't care what he does to me,but I can not handle the pain on my childrens faces because of what he says to them!!!!!!!

deleted_user 04/23/2011

i m here for you, i have somewhat similar situation. my kids havent seen their dad in 5 years. he left me 2 die n hospital for his blood related cousin. he was abusive 2 me n my children. so if u need 2 talk im here for you. n we been divorced since Aug. 3, 2010....thank the Lord.

deleted_user 04/23/2011

I'm sorry love. Let me tell you. I am 18 years old and my mother was engaged to an emotionally abusive asshole. I was about 11 at the time and he treated me and my brother like shit. Not as much me, but my brother definitely. He treated my mom like crap and i HATED him for it. If you can, take you and the kids out of there. I know it is going to be hard and maybe it is no financially possible at this time, but it is what is best for both you and them.

hockeymom5592 04/23/2011

When I my ex began to abuse my son, I opened my eyes to the fact that I too was abused. and it was enough for me to begin to lay the plans to leave. How I wished I'd done it when he was young, and saved him a lifetime of pain to heal from.

I am a little confused as to whether you are with him now or not. But it's never too late to go. Let people think what they will...just take care of yourself and the kids.

First you need to document everything. If you have a journal, that is a huge help. Copy bank statements, any financial documents you can lay your hands on, and get them to a safe place. Make yourself a safe secure exit plan. Don't get overwhelmed by the fact it may take time, it took me years....but I did it, you can do it too. And your kids will thank you....

Hugs, and Godspeed on this journey.

tonyaabernathy 04/23/2011

Thank you all I need to get this stuff out, it is so frustrating and it is so hard .I do want out and I am trying to make plans also, and this morning confirmed that this is the right thing to do.Thanks again for listening to me,your words of encouragement are priceless to me.

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