Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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I wrote in my journal today as to give the history to my story, I am sorry it is a long read, but it had to be told...
Due to my medical condition I am to avoid stress (it may cause death)...
Anyways my children barely talk to me anymore, never respond to calls or messages or texts or e-mails...
I wished my son happy birthday (Nov) in an e-mail as I found out on facebook he moved to BC. No response. Christmas, no response from daughter or son. New year no response. I became really upset.
Friday online (I try to keep up with their lives by what they do online) I went to the profile of the person my daughter sold her car to (she got a new dodge 3500 dually diesel for some reason) I found out a lot of things...I cried so hard, I couldn't breath, I was here alone and have never felt my pulse so bad in my head, you could see the veins pulse on my face!!
The person my daughters car went to (Crystelle L) is my husbands new live in girlfriend!! She refers to my children as 'the kids' on her profile! She says she is marrying my husband July 31st and my daughter is helping plan the wedding! (Strange...I never signed any divorce papers!) My son moved back to town and she is welcoming him home on her profile. He posts on her profile and ignores me!!! My daughter lives with them and I thought she was with her boyfriend!
Dec. 16th (my one year anniversary) my facebook status read...Katt N...IS A SURVIVOR! One year anniversary today! It has been a b*t*h of a year but I survived! Thanx to everyone for all the support! Curley is clipped-Larry and Moe are next. Dealing with brain aneurysms and brain surgery has been a rough road, sitting on deaths doorstep is life changing. Live and Love, dont sweat the small stuff, cherish the tiny thingsyou never know what tomorrow brings! Thanx again everyone! XOX !
My daughter commented saying 'that is because you are the strongest woman I know'
Well since Crystelle L is in my daughters friends list she can see my daughter commented on someones status, saw it was mine and changed her status to...
Crystelle L... is not surprized u see karma has a way of biting other people in the ass, an all im gunna do is sit back an giggle heeheehee lol lol lol an no im not stoned.
I am taking that as a stab at me...
Also could he push through divorce without my consent?
I want a divorce but he owes me so much money in support I am scared I will not get it if I don't handle it first!
I can't help but feel betrayed by my children...
please read the journal entry for today to understand it all...
keep in mind I have never told the children the things that happened with my home, I was scared they would tell my husband all I found out if I did...
I also never mentioned that the repeated head trauma I suffered at his hands and all he has recently put me though are most likely large contributors to my present medical condition.
I want to say something but at the same time I want to block them out, and never talk again...
I feel the need to do something, I can't stop crying and I am so torn up...
Can someone please give advice or opinions...
I need help badly...
please...
Due to my medical condition I am to avoid stress (it may cause death)...
Anyways my children barely talk to me anymore, never respond to calls or messages or texts or e-mails...
I wished my son happy birthday (Nov) in an e-mail as I found out on facebook he moved to BC. No response. Christmas, no response from daughter or son. New year no response. I became really upset.
Friday online (I try to keep up with their lives by what they do online) I went to the profile of the person my daughter sold her car to (she got a new dodge 3500 dually diesel for some reason) I found out a lot of things...I cried so hard, I couldn't breath, I was here alone and have never felt my pulse so bad in my head, you could see the veins pulse on my face!!
The person my daughters car went to (Crystelle L) is my husbands new live in girlfriend!! She refers to my children as 'the kids' on her profile! She says she is marrying my husband July 31st and my daughter is helping plan the wedding! (Strange...I never signed any divorce papers!) My son moved back to town and she is welcoming him home on her profile. He posts on her profile and ignores me!!! My daughter lives with them and I thought she was with her boyfriend!
Dec. 16th (my one year anniversary) my facebook status read...Katt N...IS A SURVIVOR! One year anniversary today! It has been a b*t*h of a year but I survived! Thanx to everyone for all the support! Curley is clipped-Larry and Moe are next. Dealing with brain aneurysms and brain surgery has been a rough road, sitting on deaths doorstep is life changing. Live and Love, dont sweat the small stuff, cherish the tiny thingsyou never know what tomorrow brings! Thanx again everyone! XOX !
My daughter commented saying 'that is because you are the strongest woman I know'
Well since Crystelle L is in my daughters friends list she can see my daughter commented on someones status, saw it was mine and changed her status to...
Crystelle L... is not surprized u see karma has a way of biting other people in the ass, an all im gunna do is sit back an giggle heeheehee lol lol lol an no im not stoned.
I am taking that as a stab at me...
Also could he push through divorce without my consent?
I want a divorce but he owes me so much money in support I am scared I will not get it if I don't handle it first!
I can't help but feel betrayed by my children...
please read the journal entry for today to understand it all...
keep in mind I have never told the children the things that happened with my home, I was scared they would tell my husband all I found out if I did...
I also never mentioned that the repeated head trauma I suffered at his hands and all he has recently put me though are most likely large contributors to my present medical condition.
I want to say something but at the same time I want to block them out, and never talk again...
I feel the need to do something, I can't stop crying and I am so torn up...
Can someone please give advice or opinions...
I need help badly...
please...
I do not know whether the divorce can be pushed, my husband (we r not divorced been seperated 5 years almost) is engaged to his girlfriend. Far as I am concerned, no big deal they will do what they are going to do anyhow, the trick is to learn to accept the inevitable.
Harsh as this sounds...stop reaching out to your kids. They know were you are. They are not doing anything to help you right now, & it sounds as though you have some seriously tough issues going on. Sometimes we have to let go of things for awhile and take care of us.
I've been readin regularly on here for quite some time now, and the love n support these peeps give to each other is amazing.
I kept wanting to join, but was too scared. But ur story touched a nerve in me and I felt i had to talk with you.
Ur story so resembles mine. Was married in what I thought to be a "typical" marriage. Was constantly berated and a few times physically abused for most of the marriage. Always screaming at the top of his voice - even tellin kids it was their fault!!! Towards the end, his violence escalated and peeps were mentioning gettin social services involved. I didnt want my kids taken into care and so, I left on that basis. Jeez, hell hath no fury. My now ex hubby promised me he would get me sectioned (tried twice n failed) turn my family against me (only my sister, but no loss there anyway) and get my kids off me (yep - fell for that one).
My eldest hasn't spoken to me for 2 years n the youngest has just about severed ties too.
These men r pure evil - pls do not rise to the bait, dont fall for it like I did. Your kids are hurting hun. Please keep writing to them, even if they dont reply. We have to let them see in their own good time. I truly know what ur going through. xxx