Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I wrote in my journal today as to give the history to my story, I am sorry it is a long read, but it had to be told...
Due to my medical condition I am to avoid stress (it may cause death)...
Anyways my children barely talk to me anymore, never respond to calls or messages or texts or e-mails...
I wished my son happy birthday (Nov) in an e-mail as I found out on facebook he moved to BC. No response. Christmas, no response from daughter or son. New year no response. I became really upset.
Friday online (I try to keep up with their lives by what they do online) I went to the profile of the person my daughter sold her car to (she got a new dodge 3500 dually diesel for some reason) I found out a lot of things...I cried so hard, I couldn't breath, I was here alone and have never felt my pulse so bad in my head, you could see the veins pulse on my face!!
The person my daughters car went to (Crystelle L) is my husbands new live in girlfriend!! She refers to my children as 'the kids' on her profile! She says she is marrying my husband July 31st and my daughter is helping plan the wedding! (Strange...I never signed any divorce papers!) My son moved back to town and she is welcoming him home on her profile. He posts on her profile and ignores me!!! My daughter lives with them and I thought she was with her boyfriend!
Dec. 16th (my one year anniversary) my facebook status read...Katt N...IS A SURVIVOR! One year anniversary today! It has been a b*t*h of a year but I survived! Thanx to everyone for all the support! Curley is clipped-Larry and Moe are next. Dealing with brain aneurysms and brain surgery has been a rough road, sitting on deaths doorstep is life changing. Live and Love, dont sweat the small stuff, cherish the tiny thingsyou never know what tomorrow brings! Thanx again everyone! XOX !
My daughter commented saying 'that is because you are the strongest woman I know'
Well since Crystelle L is in my daughters friends list she can see my daughter commented on someones status, saw it was mine and changed her status to...
Crystelle L... is not surprized u see karma has a way of biting other people in the ass, an all im gunna do is sit back an giggle heeheehee lol lol lol an no im not stoned.
I am taking that as a stab at me...
Also could he push through divorce without my consent?
I want a divorce but he owes me so much money in support I am scared I will not get it if I don't handle it first!
I can't help but feel betrayed by my children...
please read the journal entry for today to understand it all...
keep in mind I have never told the children the things that happened with my home, I was scared they would tell my husband all I found out if I did...
I also never mentioned that the repeated head trauma I suffered at his hands and all he has recently put me though are most likely large contributors to my present medical condition.
I want to say something but at the same time I want to block them out, and never talk again...
I feel the need to do something, I can't stop crying and I am so torn up...
Can someone please give advice or opinions...
I need help badly...
please...
Posted on 01/12/10, 06:01 pm
Due to my medical condition I am to avoid stress (it may cause death)...
Anyways my children barely talk to me anymore, never respond to calls or messages or texts or e-mails...
I wished my son happy birthday (Nov) in an e-mail as I found out on facebook he moved to BC. No response. Christmas, no response from daughter or son. New year no response. I became really upset.
Friday online (I try to keep up with their lives by what they do online) I went to the profile of the person my daughter sold her car to (she got a new dodge 3500 dually diesel for some reason) I found out a lot of things...I cried so hard, I couldn't breath, I was here alone and have never felt my pulse so bad in my head, you could see the veins pulse on my face!!
The person my daughters car went to (Crystelle L) is my husbands new live in girlfriend!! She refers to my children as 'the kids' on her profile! She says she is marrying my husband July 31st and my daughter is helping plan the wedding! (Strange...I never signed any divorce papers!) My son moved back to town and she is welcoming him home on her profile. He posts on her profile and ignores me!!! My daughter lives with them and I thought she was with her boyfriend!
Dec. 16th (my one year anniversary) my facebook status read...Katt N...IS A SURVIVOR! One year anniversary today! It has been a b*t*h of a year but I survived! Thanx to everyone for all the support! Curley is clipped-Larry and Moe are next. Dealing with brain aneurysms and brain surgery has been a rough road, sitting on deaths doorstep is life changing. Live and Love, dont sweat the small stuff, cherish the tiny thingsyou never know what tomorrow brings! Thanx again everyone! XOX !
My daughter commented saying 'that is because you are the strongest woman I know'
Well since Crystelle L is in my daughters friends list she can see my daughter commented on someones status, saw it was mine and changed her status to...
Crystelle L... is not surprized u see karma has a way of biting other people in the ass, an all im gunna do is sit back an giggle heeheehee lol lol lol an no im not stoned.
I am taking that as a stab at me...
Also could he push through divorce without my consent?
I want a divorce but he owes me so much money in support I am scared I will not get it if I don't handle it first!
I can't help but feel betrayed by my children...
please read the journal entry for today to understand it all...
keep in mind I have never told the children the things that happened with my home, I was scared they would tell my husband all I found out if I did...
I also never mentioned that the repeated head trauma I suffered at his hands and all he has recently put me though are most likely large contributors to my present medical condition.
I want to say something but at the same time I want to block them out, and never talk again...
I feel the need to do something, I can't stop crying and I am so torn up...
Can someone please give advice or opinions...
I need help badly...
please...
Posted on 01/12/10, 06:01 pm
Sometimes he is soooo much like his father!
Well, read your journal. I can actually relate to the continual litigous mess of it. Im quite a few more years out than you.
I think you definitely suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. I found it helpful to get into a womens support group and get counseling. there are steps you can take which can help you purge some of the poison that this situation has left in you. Once you have gotten to a better place, I think some tough decisions might need to be made ( I am sure you are thinking ........"oh great......more tough decisions" :) )
justice is not something that always happens in the court system. I doubt seriously you can be made "whole". they cannot make up for the injuries done to you. I suspect you may eventually have no choice but to write off alot of what has been taken.
As to your kids, it sounds like they are deeply damaged by growing up in a situation where they saw the emotional, physical, psychological, financial, verbal and just about every other type of abuse you suffered. They are in survival mode. I don't know if that helps you forgve them for alligning themselves with their Dad. Your situation is a great example of why people should leave quickly if they have kids. I doubt they have connected more with their Dad because they love him more, but because he is in a better position to help them and I am sure he puts tremendous pressure on them to avoid you. He sounds like a powerful scary guy.
On the pllus side, as you said karma has a way of coming back around. after my husband put us (myself and 3 sons) through the wringer he got hit by a truck. he will be in pain for the rest of his life.
For now, I really hope you get into a support group where you can go and sit down with ladies and a counselor. I think it would help alot. I don't know if they have YWCAs in Canada but if they do, definitely give them a call.
best wishes, Karen