Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Yesterday out of the blue, I received an apology.
He said,
"I'm really sorry for all the nasty things I've said to you. I never meant anything. I really wish I could take it back. I'm really not that kind of person. I was and still am just trying to heal. I'm really sorry"
All this does is MAKE ME ANGRY because HE IS THAT KIND OF PERSON. And if he's not than why did he CHOOSE to be that person with me? and saying he said those things because he is healing is STILL not taking responsibility for his behavior. Basically, I feel like it's another way of blaming me. He's saying he's healing from everything I've done to him, therefore, his nasty tirade of hate spewing texts are justified in his mind. And HOW can a person who "is not that kind of person" act like that OVER and OVER again?
He said,
"I'm really sorry for all the nasty things I've said to you. I never meant anything. I really wish I could take it back. I'm really not that kind of person. I was and still am just trying to heal. I'm really sorry"
All this does is MAKE ME ANGRY because HE IS THAT KIND OF PERSON. And if he's not than why did he CHOOSE to be that person with me? and saying he said those things because he is healing is STILL not taking responsibility for his behavior. Basically, I feel like it's another way of blaming me. He's saying he's healing from everything I've done to him, therefore, his nasty tirade of hate spewing texts are justified in his mind. And HOW can a person who "is not that kind of person" act like that OVER and OVER again?
Every contact with him is a chance for him to play mind games and manipulate you. He has not changed.
He talks like someone who feels your interest and is willing to use it as a back up if one of his options fails him.
It so important to show him that you are not interested in him and what he has to say. NO CONTACT.
There were incidents you described he could be charged for. He is dangerous.
You can grow from this, and he will stay the same probably. Because growth = responsibility and he avoids it.
We cannot control how we feel, but we can control what we do.