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Just need to vent............
My ex had the kids for halloween. When I picked my kids up Friday I was talking to my 9 year old, I asked if he had fun on halloween and he said that he & his 4 year old sister went trick or treating down the block, I said "oh that's fun where was your dad?" He told me his dad was back at his house talking to the neighbors O_O
I asked "calmly" if they were by themselves and he said "yes, we went down the cul-de-sac. I am so angry over the irrisponsibility of my ex to allow this to happen when he has been in his house barely 2 months!!!!!!!
I called my ex this morning, long story short he excused away what he did, telling me he saw nothing wrong with it, that our kids were with a group of kids and a couple of moms. I said "SOOOOOO, you have not been in that neighborhood 2 months & you already trust the neighbors with out children???". He said yes, because their husbands are a firefighter & a police officer. I said "Oh, I forgot firefighters & police officers are perfect & never do bad things". He said "they are all nice, I know them", I said "Yeah, said the neighbor to the reporter "He was sooo very nice & quiet & always said hi BEFORE HE KILLED HIS WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!" He reiterated that he did nothing wrong...... I am sorry, but allowing a 9 year old & a 4 year old to go walking through a dark neighborhood that he has lived in less then 2 months BY THEMSELVES knocking on strangers doors for candy is IRRESPONSIBLE!
I took a deep breath and said "Unfortunately, I can not control what happens when the kids are with you, however I will say this....... IF ANYTHING HAPPENS BECAUSE OF YOUR POOR DECISION MAKING, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGIVEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
P.S. Now his ex girlfriend is texting him again, he has already pawned off his 4 year old daughters dr's appt to take her to the gun range, can't wait to see what he does next! I know what is next for me, it's called "FULL CUSTODY".
My ex had the kids for halloween. When I picked my kids up Friday I was talking to my 9 year old, I asked if he had fun on halloween and he said that he & his 4 year old sister went trick or treating down the block, I said "oh that's fun where was your dad?" He told me his dad was back at his house talking to the neighbors O_O
I asked "calmly" if they were by themselves and he said "yes, we went down the cul-de-sac. I am so angry over the irrisponsibility of my ex to allow this to happen when he has been in his house barely 2 months!!!!!!!
I called my ex this morning, long story short he excused away what he did, telling me he saw nothing wrong with it, that our kids were with a group of kids and a couple of moms. I said "SOOOOOO, you have not been in that neighborhood 2 months & you already trust the neighbors with out children???". He said yes, because their husbands are a firefighter & a police officer. I said "Oh, I forgot firefighters & police officers are perfect & never do bad things". He said "they are all nice, I know them", I said "Yeah, said the neighbor to the reporter "He was sooo very nice & quiet & always said hi BEFORE HE KILLED HIS WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!" He reiterated that he did nothing wrong...... I am sorry, but allowing a 9 year old & a 4 year old to go walking through a dark neighborhood that he has lived in less then 2 months BY THEMSELVES knocking on strangers doors for candy is IRRESPONSIBLE!
I took a deep breath and said "Unfortunately, I can not control what happens when the kids are with you, however I will say this....... IF ANYTHING HAPPENS BECAUSE OF YOUR POOR DECISION MAKING, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGIVEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
P.S. Now his ex girlfriend is texting him again, he has already pawned off his 4 year old daughters dr's appt to take her to the gun range, can't wait to see what he does next! I know what is next for me, it's called "FULL CUSTODY".
I think allowing a 9 year old and a 4 year old to go to strangers homes asking for candy without a parent being present does put them in danger. He has forgotten his kids at day care because he was wrapped up in his girlfriend and also cancelled a Dr's appointment for our 4 year old when she was sick because he had a date to take his girlfriend to the gun range.
Unfortunately at the expense of even our kids if he has something better to do he will put them on the back burner.
I appreciate the insight and know how hard it is to prove so I will keep documenting to build my case. :)
I agree with you - go for full custody. But not yet (which you also know). Get good legal advice so that you will be well prepared when the time comes.
I will just add that judges do have time for "he said, she said" - that's what they deal with every day, that's their job. And if the "she said" has contemporaneous (taken at the time) notes to back it up, it does make the judge's job easier.
I am sorry that you have to deal with your ex in this manner.
thinking of you!
I just pray for strength everyday! Thanks for all the support. Love you guys! =)