Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have really been into my self care lately, and part of it is eating healthy and exercising. My mom brought me a book called "Daily Meditations for Dieters" by Anne Colby and it has different quotes & reflections that are mostly diet related, but also overall health, mental and spritual as well. I came across this passage and I thought you all might enjoy it!
If you would cure anger, do not feed it. Say to yourself, I used to be angry everyday; then every other day; now only every third or fourth day. When you reach thirty days offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving to the gods. Epictetus
Anger is one of the appetites that, if we are to be happy and healthy, must be kept in check. Perhaps you never lose your temper, or even openly express anger. But does it simmer below the surface when youre caught in traffic, or stuck with a rude salesperson at the department store? Do you friends and family feel it as silent hostility directed at them when they dont meet your expectations?
The answer is to not suppress your anger, but to become aware of it. You always have a choice whether to be angry or not. When someone cuts you off in traffic, you can just as easily forget about it as get mad. People disappoint you when youve set up expectations they never agreed to meet in the first place.
Excessive anger is bad for my health and happiness. I will look at the role it is playing in my life.
If you would cure anger, do not feed it. Say to yourself, I used to be angry everyday; then every other day; now only every third or fourth day. When you reach thirty days offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving to the gods. Epictetus
Anger is one of the appetites that, if we are to be happy and healthy, must be kept in check. Perhaps you never lose your temper, or even openly express anger. But does it simmer below the surface when youre caught in traffic, or stuck with a rude salesperson at the department store? Do you friends and family feel it as silent hostility directed at them when they dont meet your expectations?
The answer is to not suppress your anger, but to become aware of it. You always have a choice whether to be angry or not. When someone cuts you off in traffic, you can just as easily forget about it as get mad. People disappoint you when youve set up expectations they never agreed to meet in the first place.
Excessive anger is bad for my health and happiness. I will look at the role it is playing in my life.
Anger scares people-it scares ME (as does any high, negative emotion). But I think I could tolerate anger a lot better in other people if I learned to tolerate my own anger better.
I think this quote hit home for me because my stbx never understood the connection between circumstances and reactions to those circumstances. He had major anger issues (other than just being abusive) and refused to understand that he had a choice in how he reacted.