This is a good summary. I dated one of those a couple of years ago. We were still in the love-bombing stage, but I was still super skittish from experience with my husband, luckily. He had assessed me in terms of earning power, social standing and assets, and I noticed it (but ignored it). I had determined to confront him about inconsistencies in his life a couple of times and he charmed his way out of it (with some *amazingly* lame tactics, which had me falling in his arms like a complete moron). After a time, I couldn't ignore the inconsistencies any longer and dumped him, thank God. Had I been younger and inexperienced in the ways of a pathological relationship, I would probably still be with him wondering what the heck happened!

Instead, I am sitting here in my peaceful place, drinking a hot cocoa before bed, completely knowing that I am taking care of my own future without some snake in the grass waiting to jump me. Not waiting for my phone to ring or my Skype to chirp. Not waiting to respond to the inevitable drama. Just here, being. It's so much better than a relationship at any cost!

Good for you, I think my husband is one of these

Leaving my sociopath was a gut-wrenching experience. By contrast, my exH is a narcissist and he never really love-bombed, just sort of seemed to value me, like he would a new car with a few nice extras. But from the beginning, it was always about him. Also, we didn't have a lot of those really intense moments of complete togetherness like I had with the other guy, like pure bliss. (Well, none, actually.) I think that makes recovery harder because you miss those moments so much, even though they were only a prelude to the unveiling of the true him.

I enjoyed that site also, I also had a light bulb moment reading about a sociopath and I think it pretty much sums my ex up.

This article is so helpful, but then I think.... are all the people i dated sociopaths... are all the people I meet and enjoy sociopaths. These are the traits/behaviors of nearly all the people I have spent time with.....

Yes, Yellow, I have also seen a pattern with myself. Those kinds of men are drawn to me like a moth to flame. And I to them. I don't know if I have ever truly gotten involved with a normal man, in fact I know I haven't. I am simply not interested in them, I guess. Maybe with time and peace, the patterns can change, but I'm really not sure about it. That's why I choose to be alone for now. I'm done sabotaging my own life.

Yay, I LOVE this site! Well, I don't love the reason why I am looking on it, if you know what I mean. But, when a lifering appears...

Glad to see it being recommended again. It's a fabulous comprehensive resource :) xx

Unfortunately, the articles on that site fit my husband to a T. He is charismatic, he love bombed, he accused me of what he was doing, he lied and manipulated, and he has no remorse or empathy. The last part took me a long time to notice. Forever it was one I left off the list because I thought well of course he has empathy, he tears up at times and he says he understands. He sure ACTED remorseful! Then it hit me yesterday.....the lack of NC letters to the OW, the blaming me for NC, sending pics of our newborn to the OW, the continuing of adding women on facebook even after I caught him sexting a coworker and was horribly hurt.....all those are signs of lack of empathy. He had to be told what to do to make it right and even then he half-assed it. I just thought he never got it, which is true, he couldn't get it because he doesn't have the ability to put himself in another's shoes.