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babyrena
babyrena
I have been wondering if i was right in all the words i told him before he left me. i can't help feeling abandoned at the moment. there has been no contact for three weeks now. I find myself thinking about him a lot. but i have really trying to stay clear from that also. Also trying to keep myself from talking about him. sometimes i slip but i know I'm human. couple of his cuzn came and said to me "its better for you to move on. he is nothing but an asshole. he don't know when he has something good and ruins it." I told these people "make sure and tell him that when you see him. " i don't say anything to nobody at all cuz of his standing in the community. but i am not moping and feeling all weepy like the last time. i finally ready to move on. It has been a long hard road to this point . I'm glad i made it out in one piece.
gem111
gem111
Yes, Baby,
I am one of the ones who keep hoping and praying you will see the light, that he uses you and you will move on. I will support you no matter what you decide, but, I would so like to see you with someone who REALLY cares about you, and your feelings, and would never hurt you.
You work so hard and are always broke. It's nice to give to others and I've given my kids money too. There comes a time though, when we need to realize as we get older, that no one will be taking care of us and we do need to save some money for when we retire.
I wish you the very best, baby, no matter what you decide. Hang in there. We love you and want you to be OK.

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babyrena
babyrena
Thanks gem for always encouraging me in my time of need. it has been hard for me to face the reality that he doesn't love me and that his first and only love is marijauna! I have to hope for self care and healing now. i have to work on believing i deserve better.
gem111
gem111
You DO deserve better, You deserve someone that doesn't take advantage. One of your last posts or maybe your last post where you had no gas because he used your truck, yet you saw him getting gas for his truck, gggggggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Love you, baby, please take care and stay safe!!!!!!!

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babyrena
babyrena
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radrm
radrm
Stay strong and you can do it. I am doing it too. I think it gets easier because our feelings change and the love goes away once we realize they can never change. Stick to the no contact if you can and time will help. I try not to talk about him or any of his family because it just keeps it going and the more I don't focus on that aspect of my life the easier my life seems to become. Keep trying and don't ever give up. I know our weaknesses with these guys is crazy but still never give up trying to move on.
babyrena
babyrena
Its really hard to stay mad when I'm still sad and lonely. I've been focusing on traditional gathering and my family to help me. I'm trying really hard not to talk about him. still no contact at all. from him or me. i think he has a new victim any way. I'm not surprised at all.