Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have been running across some of the most amazing and fitting quotes over the last month and it really has me wondering and thinking how god really does work in mysterious ways. It is awesome!
Had to share. Hope you enjoy! =)
Real men/women don't love the most beautiful woman/man in the world, they love the man/woman who can make their world the most beautiful. ~~Author unknown
Why do we close our eyes when we pray? When we cry? Or when we dream? Because we know the most beautiful things are not seen, but felt by the heart. ~~Author Unknown
Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions. ~~Will Smith
It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself. ~~Joyce Maynard
Be thankful for the bad things in life. They open yours eyes to see the good things you weren't paying attention to before. ~~Author Unknown
Isn't it amazing how God brings the right people into your life at the right time. People who support, love and pray for you regardless of your circumstances. ~~Author Unknown
Nothing goes away until it teaches us what we need to know. ~~Pema Chodron
Your best teacher is your last mistake. ~~Author Unknown
Had to share. Hope you enjoy! =)
Real men/women don't love the most beautiful woman/man in the world, they love the man/woman who can make their world the most beautiful. ~~Author unknown
Why do we close our eyes when we pray? When we cry? Or when we dream? Because we know the most beautiful things are not seen, but felt by the heart. ~~Author Unknown
Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions. ~~Will Smith
It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself. ~~Joyce Maynard
Be thankful for the bad things in life. They open yours eyes to see the good things you weren't paying attention to before. ~~Author Unknown
Isn't it amazing how God brings the right people into your life at the right time. People who support, love and pray for you regardless of your circumstances. ~~Author Unknown
Nothing goes away until it teaches us what we need to know. ~~Pema Chodron
Your best teacher is your last mistake. ~~Author Unknown
That one about kids is good for me! Sometimes I stress over helping the kids grow, and a friend reminded me that doing is the best way of teaching, and I live with an abuser and so it's too hard to do that. Can't wait to get away.
I love the quotes!! Pema Chodrin is one of my favorite authors, although I can only handle one lesson at a time!
It is true... What we need to learn the most about will keep re-appearing in our lives. I have always been a very positive, spiritual person and often times interpreted the quotes above as spiritual insights.
Going through my own abusive nightmare, and having it repeat time and time again in different forms throughout my life, I have finally come to the conclusion that there is something about ME that needs attention... That has been waiting to be healed all along.
While I do not believe victims of abuse in any way ask to be abused, I must admit that there are certain inner beliefs that I hold that allow me to be abused. And I can speak only for myself... No one else here.
I know that abuse has always pushed me to my knees, dragged me through the muck of life, only to leave me feeling broken and alone at it's very end.
I needed to learn my own self-worth, how to love and truly, deeply accept myself. I needed to learn boundaries. I needed to separate out the beliefs that were at the core of me from what I was told they should be.
I needed to let go of shame, guilt and the sense of duty (to whom and what I do not know... It was always some vague, out-there, feeling I had that I should be and do something to please someone else.. Perhaps society?).
I needed to learn to love myself.
The point of this post, is that while some of these quotes may seem unattainable or unreachable right now, they gain relevance over time.
Beautiful quotes!!!
XOXO
"The truth is that even when I am not ok, I still feel blessed and grateful."
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On the topic of that sense of duty thing---for me I think it stems in part from both my mom and dad indicating I was responsible for my dad's emotional instability. That led me to have a false sense of responsibility. I was also raised "do what you're told and don't ask questions" so again it subtly told me I was responsible for others (I need to do what others say and I don't have enough value to be able to question others). And I see now all the things that need to change in me that have been brought out because of my abusive situation (again, not implying I deserved it or caused it).
After speaking to other victim of abuse I have seen a theme where there was a point in which they were told (or it was implied) that they didn't have worth. Believing that led them to not question the abuse which in turn only reinforced the belief. Its true for me too.