These are totally unacceptable actions he is taking. He is going out of your way to make you miserable, and displaying what a creep he is. And getting angry at him will just encourage him. Just shake your head and laugh at how pathetic he is. try to, at least. He'll get bored and try a new tactic soon. (As in a few days)

Have a friend co worker answer the phone. When he ask for you..."Who? man I just bought this phone for a dolla, lady said good riddance? Who are you?"

Thanks for your support Baxjanson and I almost feel like I am being punished but for what I don't know? 3 more calls to my cell phone that luckily were blocked but tommorrow I will not have that option as I will be at work. Also what if he just shows up? Jewells, that is a good idea if I would not be at work alone and he was not calling the established work phone. He surely can't be that dumb to think we are closed. I can only avoid so long. With the 2 other abusive exes I changed my cell number as it got so bad. Blocked social sites..etc. I just hope I can sleep some tonight. Really windy here and every sound has me freaked out. :(

Joanie, I cannot imagine how hard that must be. I'm not really in a position to offer advice, but one thing did occur to me to share with you, and that is to listen to your body. It's telling you something. The sickness (that you said yourself is most likely stress related), the anxiety, feeling like you need to throw up. Answering his calls/texts will not make that go away, it will probably make it worse. He is causing all of those physical symptoms for you.

Have you considered a protective order? Not sure where you live but maybe that would help. You deserve to live without being harassed by him, regardless of whether you gave him another chance recently or not. (((((HUGS)))))))

Started already this morning. :( I have to wonder if I am perhaps not making it worse by NOT replying in some way?

Every call I take at work, I have to second guess myself. Could he be having someone call me? Counting down the hours.

I know his cell number, and his work phone to avoid those, but have no clue of his friends numbers.

Been in the bathroom already twice and only here for less than an hour.

The suggestion of a protection order is a possibility but honestly it's not like he is threatening me. He can't even leave voicemails due to the settings on my block. His texts are not threatening either and he has not tried to show up at my work or my house yet.

I would just think he would get tired of trying and get the hint.

Joanie are you alone at work or are there other people around? It sounds awful to be there and be so full of fear and anxiety every time you pick up the phone. It's not your responsibility to know his friends' numbers and if he is that intent on talking to you, he may try using someone else's phone or whatever. But remember that you can simply hang up the phone as soon as you hear his voice if it's him.

You're not making anything worse by not taking his calls. It's probably impossible to predict for how long he'll continue to try to contact you, but I would still back you up that ignoring him to the extent you can is best for you. You are not doing anything wrong by ignoring him. This is HIS problem, being obsessed with harassing you. What would probably happen if you did answer? It wouldn't put a stop to the behavior, only reinforce next time that if he is persistent enough, you will give in eventually. keep on keeping on and stay safe! (((HUGS)))))

When I see your icon I am reminded of some good advice I read once. When your abuser comes at you trying to attack, run to your castle and bring up your drawbridge. Visualize going to your castle which is your fortress that has a moat around it. Spend a moment visualizing what this looks like. The colors, the smells, the kind of stone you see. You are in the top of your castle looking down at him attempting to find a way to cross but he is unable. Notice how far away he is from your window. He is far enough away that you almost can't recognize him. You are safe in your castle. You are the only one with access to the drawbridge.

I am alone at work. I fortunately only have 30 more minutes here.
He has called work 6 times from his cell and his work phone. One time possibly from another number that he may have as I looked it up on free cell phone trace. It shows the same area as his cell phone and he does have two cell phones, which leads me to believe, 2 different numbers.
His area is out of range of my area and no reason for that number to be calling for anything we have here, due to gas prices to drive to my work to pick up what we sell.
Just guessing and the time was right before opening.
He called my cell 2 times from work and cell.
My sister in law has taken calls from me to help settle my nerves. When I go home, I plan to hide my vehicle as best I can and lock up tight. I would just stay gone, but I of course have a migraine and don't care to drive with it.
I read about obsessive disorders and I am a bit worried that he may be going through some obsessive disorder but it really doesn't fit as he has not worried about where I was for the last couple of weeks/weekends, so I really should not be his problem now. Also our "relationship" was not solid anyway and there was no intimacy what so ever. At best it was a strained friendship of an enabler trying to help an addict and once again losing the fight.
I just can't go down the road he is on. :(