Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
so i posed the other day about my landlord, the lease, small claims, him infiltrating my pool world in a desperate attempt to keep me isolated & alone.
I went downtown today & filed 2 small claims against him. one for $6000 for the remainder of the lease. One for $4600 for about $800 in repairs to my van that he caused and the remainder for emotional distress. This is Canada & not like the States where you can sue for that kind of thing. Who knows if I'll get anything for the distress & the lady looked at me like I was nuts asking for that amount, condesendingly asking me, what are you going to do to prove it? Bring your Dr.?
I realized, I have a paper trail of prescriptions, Dr visits, phone records of calls to crisis lines, lawyers, police, everything over the last couple of months.
I feel slightly more empowered. The papers need to be served by someone else & filed with the court. The date is set. Nov 22 at 9 am we'll have a hearing where I produce my proof of him owing me this money. If i do win, I won't see a dime until probably January & by then who knows how I'll make the rent.
but...
I did it. I also emailed the guy who runs the pool league where he's trying to infiltrate my little world by getting on a team out of my hang out & asked him to not let him play & told him the reasons why. I'm going to contact the owner of the venue & talk to him as well.
Wish me luck you guys. I need your support so badly. I'm already depending on everyone here to help boost me up by reading your posts, your replies, by getting your hugs, which i love so much!!
My anxiety is through the roof & the shakes are coming back but remind me, this is not my fault. I didn't ask for this. It is ok & I did the right thing by going to this extent.
xoxo
gogo
I went downtown today & filed 2 small claims against him. one for $6000 for the remainder of the lease. One for $4600 for about $800 in repairs to my van that he caused and the remainder for emotional distress. This is Canada & not like the States where you can sue for that kind of thing. Who knows if I'll get anything for the distress & the lady looked at me like I was nuts asking for that amount, condesendingly asking me, what are you going to do to prove it? Bring your Dr.?
I realized, I have a paper trail of prescriptions, Dr visits, phone records of calls to crisis lines, lawyers, police, everything over the last couple of months.
I feel slightly more empowered. The papers need to be served by someone else & filed with the court. The date is set. Nov 22 at 9 am we'll have a hearing where I produce my proof of him owing me this money. If i do win, I won't see a dime until probably January & by then who knows how I'll make the rent.
but...
I did it. I also emailed the guy who runs the pool league where he's trying to infiltrate my little world by getting on a team out of my hang out & asked him to not let him play & told him the reasons why. I'm going to contact the owner of the venue & talk to him as well.
Wish me luck you guys. I need your support so badly. I'm already depending on everyone here to help boost me up by reading your posts, your replies, by getting your hugs, which i love so much!!
My anxiety is through the roof & the shakes are coming back but remind me, this is not my fault. I didn't ask for this. It is ok & I did the right thing by going to this extent.
xoxo
gogo
Keep reminding yourself that what you did was for damage control and to recover your life. Not spite.
And, to quote my therapist "I don't think you're doing this out of spite. I think you're doing this to protect yourself. But, at this point don't you think you're entitled to a little bit of spite?"
Good gawd I cried so much last night, thinking why did he have to do this? Why doesn't he just help me out until I get on my feet? Why did he sign this lease with me & then just leave me with it? How can he just turn his back on me, my kids & not even care? WTF is up with that? gives me such anxiety that my stomach hurts.
I'm having a hard time focusing here. Can someone remind me that it's about the crazymaking, that its something other than its my fault for getting involved with him? That its my fault because I ignored the warning signs.
Tell me, it's not my fault! It will be ok. please........
You cannot beat yourself up over making wrong decisions based on wrong information. Garbage in, garbage out as they used to say in computing (maybe still do, I'm old lol). You were fed wrong information and you made decisions based on that. It's not your fault the information was wrong - what you saw was a wonderful human being with a few flaws and issues. That's what he wanted you to see. And it's not the truth.
I also hate what became of my relationship, that it came to the point I had to just ignore his emails, that I couldn't answer the phone, that I had to pay a lawyer so much money just to keep him at bay - the man I loved. But it did come to that, and for you it has come to this. And you are doing what you have to do.
You may well be right (you know him better than any of us), he may well ignore it "knowing" that you are not serious (they cannot conceive of us ever getting a backbone). But be prepared for the fact that he might not. They can be very unpredictable.
All the best to you.
Oh and ...
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IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
gosh..i love you guys!
now I look back on them and see them for what they were.