Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I joined this support group yesterday and finally it struck me clearly..I was in an abusive relation and NOTHING CAN JUSTIFY IT.Neither the death of his mom when he was young nor the physical abuse his father gave his mother before she died.NOTHING CAN EVER JUSTIFY HOW HE BEHAVED.
I was just out of home,into college when I met him online.He was just left by his gf who said that he treats her like a servant.Today I understand exactly what she meant.I fell for him and that was the beginning of 6.5 years long time where I punished myself each day for loving him.
With time I only started distancing myself from my family, friends and everybody.He was the only person I used to be in contact with each day.I would beg for love,care,warthm..I would cry..I would do anything to make him try to understand what he is doing to me..He would only say that I make him go mad and that\'s why he does all this but he can\'t live without me..At some point even I started believing that I cause him to go mad..My behavior,my needs..No man can ever love a girl like me..No wonder even though he loves me he can\'t give me what I want.My kind of girl doesn\'t deserve it..
Each day was painful..I wanted to punish myself so bad.
My relation was like a roller coaster where lows were far more then the highs.In these years I kept going in and out of this relation.
Finally one day I consulted my family and told them everything.They are the support have right now and this is what made me get out of this twisty toxic relation..I am trying to find the girl I was once and my journey to find her has just started.Wish me luck...
I was just out of home,into college when I met him online.He was just left by his gf who said that he treats her like a servant.Today I understand exactly what she meant.I fell for him and that was the beginning of 6.5 years long time where I punished myself each day for loving him.
With time I only started distancing myself from my family, friends and everybody.He was the only person I used to be in contact with each day.I would beg for love,care,warthm..I would cry..I would do anything to make him try to understand what he is doing to me..He would only say that I make him go mad and that\'s why he does all this but he can\'t live without me..At some point even I started believing that I cause him to go mad..My behavior,my needs..No man can ever love a girl like me..No wonder even though he loves me he can\'t give me what I want.My kind of girl doesn\'t deserve it..
Each day was painful..I wanted to punish myself so bad.
My relation was like a roller coaster where lows were far more then the highs.In these years I kept going in and out of this relation.
Finally one day I consulted my family and told them everything.They are the support have right now and this is what made me get out of this twisty toxic relation..I am trying to find the girl I was once and my journey to find her has just started.Wish me luck...
You hit the nail on the head. It is a twisty toxic relationship. Like you I am in the process of trying to find the girl that I was then, young and free. 18 years of my life is gone, I am older now. I just wish that someone could have helped that girl before 18 wasted years. Older and wiser, I am looking forward to the remainder of my life abuse free. Join me. Hugs.
You found a great place to help you begin healing. Vent, share, read, join in...whatever you need to do that is helpful. It\'s all about taking care of yourself right now - about time, huh? ((hugs))!
It takes a long time to heal from emotional abuse. I too referred to my abusive marriage as a rollercoaster. I chose to get off the ride because it made me sick.
You are not alone, we know how you feel. Hugs to you because I have been where you are.